This is another blog on the way “fear of change” can interfere with our dreams and goals.

How many of us have dreamed of doing, having or being something that we don’t have now?  Do you remember when we were teenagers and young adults?  We were going to conquer the world, be rich, famous and live a life of fun and excitement!  We were going to have it all!

Now, many of us, as aging Baby Boomers, are close to retiring.  When you look back at your life, what have you accomplished?  How many of your dreams came true?  I have tried to go after different dreams and goals in the past.  But things always got in the way and I usually gave up. 

Bob Proctor, in his book: “Born Rich” talks about this phenomenon.  He says to imagine that you are standing at one end of a street and at the other end is your goal.  As you attempt to reach your goal, you will be faced with demands, like not enough time or money.   These demands become a risk, which create fear.  When this happens, suddenly side alleys, called options, appear on the street leading to your goal.

According to Bob Proctor, 80% of people, when faced with a risk, will stop trying to reach their goal and take an option instead.  They have let their “fear of change” stop them from becoming, doing or having what they have dreamed about.

Bob Proctor says that:  “When the mind (which is an activity, not a thing) is faced with a demand or a risk, the mind will offer you an option, called the escape hatch.  We then start expecting the result that we don’t want. 

Expectation can be either a blessing or a curse, but either way, it is certainly one of the most powerful, unseen forces in your life.  What do you expect?  I’ll tell you how to know what you expect.  Take a look at the results in your life.  Your results will tell you exactly what you’ve been expecting.

All of the things that we desire are not the things that we expect BECAUSE we allow the demands and the risks (the fear of change) to control whether or not we will do what is necessary to get our desires.”

A minister once said that the saddest thing about a funeral was not the death of the person; the saddest thing was the death of all the dreams.  I don’t remember which poet wrote: “the saddest words of tongue and pen are these few words “it might have been”.

In my next blog I’ll talk about how to eliminate these negative expectations so that we can be, do and have what we want in our lives — so that we don’t die with our dreams still inside us!