Do you know how many times a child has heard the word “NO” by the time they reach kindergarten?  Studies show that children have heard the word “NO” 50,000 times, as compared to hearing the word “YES” only 5,000 times!   The majority of us have been conditioned to be negative!

So, the age-old excuse “my parents did it to me” is true!  But when we move away from home, as adults, we take over the job.  Listen to people’s self talk: “I’m so stupid!”  “How could I be so dumb”  “I’ll never be able to do this.”  “I can’t…”  “I’m not…” “I’ll never…” etc. etc. etc.

I remember when I first learned about the negative emotional blocks I’d had all my life, I went through a stage of hating my parents.  Then I worked through that and realized that they couldn’t give me something that they didn’t even know about?  They didn’t know what unconditional love was because they’d never had it in their own lives. 

Finally, I reached the stage where I recognized that my parents were good people who had done the best they could with the level of knowledge, skill and awareness they had at the time.  I also realized that it was time to stop blaming my parents and accept responsibility for my life.  I didn’t have any control over what happened to me as a child but I had the ability and the responsibility to affect how the rest of my life was going to be.

Someone once said that you spend the first twenty years of your life learning from your parents and the rest of your life unlearning.  In many cases, I believe that to be true.