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#1 Biggest Mistake Women Over 30 are Making that is Keeping Them Unhealthy, Unhappy and Unfulfilled

Sheryl — Wed, 11 Aug 2010 03:31:03 +0000

This is the last of three blogs that have identified the 3 biggest mistakes why most women over 30 are unhappy, unhealthy and unfulfilled.

The first video clip identified the 3rd biggest mistake as the “Sponge Syndrome”. The second video revealed the second biggest mistake as “Giving Away Their Power”. If you did not see them, they can be viewed at www.Youtube.com/SherylStanton1.

Today’s video clip will discuss what is the biggest mistake that most women over 30 are making. Here is the link: Biggest Mistake.

I would love to hear what you think.

Sheryl Stanton RN

Stress Relief Specialist

Winner of the “Women of Worth” Health and Wellness Award for 2010

www.SherylStanton.com

www.WomensWellnessWeekend.net

stressrelief@shaw.ca

(604) 302-6374

Second Biggest Mistake that Women Over 30 Are Making that is Keeping Them Unhappy, Unhealthy and Unfulfilled

Sheryl — Wed, 11 Aug 2010 03:28:35 +0000

A previous post discussed the third biggest mistake that women over 30 were making that was keeping them unhappy, unhealthy and unhappy.

This short video clip identifies the second biggest mistake. To view the video, click on this link: 2nd biggest mistake.

I would love to hear your comments.

Sheryl Stanton RN

Stress Relief Specialist

Winner of the “Women of Worth” Health and Wellness Award for 2010

www.SherylStanton.com

www.WomensWellnessWeekend.net

stressrelief@shaw.ca

(604) 302-6374

The Third Biggest Mistake Women Over 30 Are Making That is Keeping Them Unhealthy, Unhappy and Unfulfilled

Sheryl — Sat, 10 Jul 2010 08:24:22 +0000

Do you know what the Third Biggest Mistake Women Over 30 are Making that is Keeping Them Unhappy, Unhealthy and Unfulfilled?

This short video clip will tell you. Third Biggest Mistake Women Over 30 Are Making

Sheryl Stanton RN

Stress Relief Specialist

www.SherylStanton.com

www.WomensWellnessWeekend.net

www.StressReliefForLife.com

www.YouTube.com/SherylStanton1

stressrelief@shaw.ca

(604) 302 -6374

Sixty Year Old Wins “Women of Worth” Health and Wellness Award for 2010

Sheryl — Sun, 06 Jun 2010 08:02:27 +0000

I attended the ”Women of Worth” Conference with 700 other women at the Hotel Vancouver on Saturday, May 29th. I had a table display there but I was also there for another reason.

I was there as a finalist for the “Women of Worth” Health and Wellness Award for 2010. What made it especially meaningful for me, is that it was two of my private stress-relief clients who nominated me.

To my delight, I was chosen to receive the award! You can see in the picture that I am standing beside Christine Awram, the president and founder of “Women of Worth”.

I didn’t start out to be a stress relief specialist. Originally, I was just looking for a way to get my own health back after being in bed for three months with a stress-related illness. I was told at the age of 45 that I was going to have to accept a limited lifestyle.

This was not something I was willing to do, so I started searching and I went outside of Western medicine because they had no answers for me. For eight years I studied many different branches of complementary health and energy medicine.

I did get my health back. More important, I found out why I got sick in the first place. I learned about the negative belief systems, the “Emotional Mud” on my spirit, that that affected every area of my life – negatively.

Most important, I learned how to make sure that it never happened again. Using a powerful stress-reduction tool called Emotional Freedom Technique, I was able to break those negative emotional hooks or blocks and wash away the “Emotional Mud”.

I am now free to do the things and be the person I’ve always wanted to be. I’d wanted to be a speaker for thirty five years but didn’t believe I had anything worthwhile to say. I’d always wanted to write but who would want to read anything I’d written?

As I grew in knowledge and experience, I learned that many people felt the same way I had. I started sharing my knowledge with others and found to my amazement that not only did people want to know, that I loved to do it.

After seaching for over half a century, I’d finally found out what I was supposed to do with my life! I love to speak and I’ve written four books and created four DVD courses; including: the Personal Peace Program, “Stress-Free? – Me?”, “Stress-Free Parenting: fact or fiction?” and “Work-Stress? – Not a Problem!”

My greatest joy is to see the changes in my client’s lives as they break their own negative emotional blocks and wash away their own “Emotional Mud”.

So what I do as a stress relief specialist. I work individually with private clients, either in person or over the phone. I present my own seminars and retreats. And I speak to organizations and businesses about their aspects of stress relief.

On Wednesday, June 16th from 7:00 to 10:00 pm in Burnaby, I am presenting a three hour ”Stress-Free? – Me?” seminar. Click on the following link to watch a short video explanation of the seminar. “Stress-Free? – Me?” – Absolutely! If you are unable to attend the seminar, you can still get the information by checking out “Easy Stress Free Me!”

I hope you can join us.

Sheryl Stanton

RN, Stress Relief Specialist

Winner of the “Women of Worth” Health and Wellness Award for 2010

Do You Suffer From the “Push Me-Pull You” Syndrome?

Sheryl — Tue, 25 May 2010 08:37:44 +0000

Do You Remember What a Push Me-Pull You Is?

In the movie, Dr. Doolittle, a man who could talk to the animals, was sent a very unique animal, called a Push Me – Pull You. It had two heads and two sets of front legs. When one half wanted to move forward, the other half would have to move backward. This caused a lot of confusion and disharmony. Most of the time, the animal just stood still.

What is the Push Me-Pull You Syndrome?

Just like the animal, many of us have two parts that are fighting each other. One part wants to make a change in our lives. The other part is getting a pay-off or reward for continuing the behavior and doesn’t want to change. It will usually sabotage our efforts.

This is usually subconscious or below the awareness part of our mind, so we might not even know we are doing it. However, we do know that no matter how badly we may want to change, we never seem to be able to do it.

How Do We Know If We Have the Push Me-Pull You Syndrome?

Just think of the things that you want to do or feel you have to do or need to do. Those are the “Push Me” parts of the syndrome. Some examples could be:

I want to lose weight
I need to get a better job
I have to go to school
I want to be a better parent
I need to be a better ….(fill in the blank)

The “Pull Me” part of the syndrome would be whatever reasons you are using for not doing the “Push Me” part.

For “I want to lose weight” - then men might hit on me and I might not be safe
For “I need to get a better job” – but they will find out I’m not good enough to do the job
For “I have to go to school” – but what if I’m not smart enough to do the work; what will people think if I fail
For “I want to be a better parent” – I’m not a good person, what do I know about being a good parent
For “I need to be a better….” – but I’m not good enough, smart enough, don’t deserve to have a better —, can’t do it, etc. etc. etc.

Do you get the idea?

What is an example of the Push Me-Pull You Syndrome?

Any time we want to make a change but are not doing it can show the Push Me-Pull You syndrome. Where it is most obvious is when we are trying to change an addiction.

I am going to use the addiction to food as an example because it is the drug of choice for most people. It is also the addiction that I am the most familiar with. The three times in my life when I was overweight were very unhappy times for me.

I used food as a source of comfort – the only comfort I could find at the time. And it was not celery and carrot sticks that comforted me. It was rich, creamy, carbohydrate, sweet and fatty food.

Why do we sabotage our efforts to change?

Because there is a pay-off. We get something out of what we are doing. In my case, I got comfort from eating.

One of my clients was addicted to chocolate. Emotionally to her, chocolate meant love. She was not about to give that chocolate up, without a fight. That is why we sabotage. We perceive what we have as being more valuable, in the moment, than what we want, in the future.

It is just like the small child who is offered a sucker now or an ice cream sundae later. We will choose the sucker now because we need it now and can’t see that waiting will give us something better.

Remember that this all happens at a subconscious level. Consciously, we want to lose weight or get a better job or whatever the “Push Me” part of us is saying. But subconsciously, where all of our decisions are really made, the “Pull Me” part of us is saying that we do not believe that the pay off will be better than what we are getting now.

How do you eliminate the Push Me-Pull You Syndrome?

The most powerful tool I have found, and what worked for me, is Emotional Freedom Technique or EFT. It helped me first to become aware of the negative belief systems (the Pull You) that were controlling my life.

Then it helped me to break that negative conditioning and remove my need for artificial comfort. I lost almost fifty pounds and have kept it off for almost two years now.

If you would like to learn how to use EFT to eliminate the negative conditioning or “Pull Yous” that are keeping you stuck, I invite you to attend the three hour “Stress Free? Me? Seminar that is being held in Burnaby, BC on Wednesday, June 16th from 7 to 10 pm. Click here for more information.

If you can’t attend, the information is available to you at http://www.easystressfreeme.com/

Three Massive Mistakes Even Smart Mothers Make That Keep Them Frustrated, Overwhelmed, Guilty and Worried About Their Children’s Future

Sheryl — Tue, 20 Apr 2010 11:55:17 +0000

Most women have their child’s best interests at heart and want to be good mothers. Unfortunately, children are not born with training manuals pinned to their navels. As a result, most women do not know what they are doing or how well they are fulfilling their roles as mothers.

As the mother of six children myself, I never knew if what I was doing was right. I experimented with my first child as she went through each new age and stage. By the time I figured out how to handle it, she was out of that stage and into another. And what worked for her, didn’t work for the others.

I once knew a man who had no children and six theories on how to raise them. Then he got married and had children of his own. Now, he has six children and no theories.

So, what are the three massive mistakes even smart mothers make that keep them frustrated,overwhelmed, guilty and worried about their children’s future?

Mistake # 3: The Sponge Syndrome

As mother’s we sponge up all of our kids fears and problems. We think it is our problem to fix our kids, no matter how old they are. The first reason this is a mistake, is because it is impossible to do. We can’t “fix” our kids! We can guide them and teach them but they have to learn for themselves.

By overprotecting them and “solving” their problems, we make them weak and dependent on us. Not only that, they will resent us for it! They will feel that we believe they are not capable of looking after themselves.

All we will do is weaken our children, alienate them and make ourselves sick trying to do the impossible.

Mistake # 2: Trying To Do It All Alone

You’ve probably heard the statement: “It takes a village to raise a child.” There is a lot of truth in that. In the old days when people stayed in villages, surrounded by their extended families, there were other people to help, support and train the children. But, in today’s world, we don’t have that as much, if at all. Many mothers are trying to do it alone.

It doesn’t matter if they are sick or tired or working out of the home. The needs of the children still must be met. Often by women who are not having their own needs met or who are emotionally ill equipped to raise a child. They feel isolated, all alone, overwhelmed and exhausted.

They need to connect with other women and create a support network for themselves.

Mistake # 1: Not Taking Care of Their Own Needs

This is probably the biggest problem that the majority of mothers face today! They spend so much time and energy meeting the needs of their children and everyone else, they have no time, energy or resources left to take care of themselves.

Unfortunately, you can’t keep giving from an empty bucket. Eventually, there is nothing left to give. Everything starts to fall apart, including the woman’s health.

A woman’s first priority has to be taking care of her own physical, social and emotional needs. The very best thing she can do for her children is to be healthy herself! She will then interact with her children is a more positive, healthy way. This will allow her children to also respond in healthier, more responsible ways. It truly creates a win-win situation for everyone.

Unfortunately, most women don’t know how to deal with their overwhelming emotions in a positive way. In eight years of intensive research, I found the best tool for eliminating negative emotions to be Emotional Freedom Technique or EFT.

A four-hour Stress-Free Parenting seminar is being held in Surrey on Saturday, May 15th that will teach mothers how to use EFT to eliminate their parenting stress and restore their joy and effectiveness with their children.

For more information, go to: http://www.SherylStanton.com/stressfreeparentingseminar.html

or call (604) 302-6374.

Do You Have the Greatest Love of All?

Sheryl — Sat, 13 Feb 2010 09:54:24 +0000

February is Valentine’s month. This is a time when thoughts turn to romance and “true love’s kiss”. We dream of having the greatest love of all! Unfortunately, most of us don’t know what true love is.

For many people, true love is as real as the modern fairy tale, “Enchanted”, where the young girl is waiting for Prince Charming to give her true love’s kiss, after which they will live happily ever after.

We all long to have a rich, satisfying, mutually fulfilling relationship with another person. So why do so many people have shallow, meaningless relationships? I think that one possible reason is that many, if not most of us, do not have the greatest love of all.

In 1986, Whitney Houston sang a number one hit, called “the Greatest Love of All.” I disagree with one of the lines, which says “The greatest love of all is easy to achieve. Learning to love yourself is the greatest love of all.”

From my own experience, my eight years of intensive research and my years of private counseling as a stress relief coach, I believe that learning to love yourself is not easy to achieve.

Most of us were born into imperfect families. I heard one child psychologist say that he believed 97% of families were dysfunctional. Many of our parents did the best they knew how, using the level of skill and understanding they had at the time. But they were trying to deal with their own “issues” and weren’t able to give us what we needed.

Children don’t understand that their parents are having problems, are worried, sick or tired. All they see if that their parents (really, their Gods, at that age) are angry or unhappy. They internalize their parent’s negative emotions and/or actions as being their fault. “I’m bad. I’m not good enough. There is something wrong with me. I don’t deserve to be loved or happy, etc.”

Most of this conditioning happens when children are very young, usually before the age of understanding. Then their subconscious (below conscious level) mind buries these feelings because they are too painful. So we are not even aware that we have this negative conditioning. But we do and it affects every aspect of our lives.

How do you know if you have negative conditioning about not being lovable? Just look at your relationships. Are you able to commit to a loving relationship? How fulfilling or satisfying is it? Are you loved in return? Are you happy? Are you treated well?

If you’re not, you have a negative emotional block that is stopping you from loving yourself. It makes you believe that you are not worthy of being loved. Until that negative emotional block is broken, you will never feel good about yourself or achieve the loving relationship you want.

You might be given several opportunities for love but you will sabotage them because you have to be true to your belief system – no matter how damaging or false it is.

One of my clients is a beautiful, intelligent, charming woman in her mid forties, who has never had a marriage proposal. She says that any time a man that she is attracted to, starts to show an interest in her, she will point out every negative feature about herself until she literally drives him away.

As our coaching sessions have progressed, she has realized that because she doesn’t feel she is worthy of being loved for herself, she doesn’t trust anyone who expresses an interest in her. They must want to use her in some way. So she drives them away before she can be hurt.

The exciting news is that you can break these negative emotional blocks! They are not true. They are just bad programming. You can erase and then rewrite them so that you do love yourself.

The best tool I’ve found to break the negative emotional blocks that prevent us from living the type of life we want, is Emotional Freedom Technique; also called EFT or Tapping.

EFT can help you break free of the emotional chains that are holding you back from experiencing the love you want.

To learn how, I invite you attend the “Stress-Free Me” seminar that is being held in Abbotsford on Tuesday evening, February 16th. Click here for More Information.

If you can’t attend but would like more information, I invite you to visit: http://www.SherylStanton.com.

You can have, and deserve to be loved. Learning to love yourself is the greatest love of all. When this foundation if firmly established, the other forms of love will also come.

How Many Times Have You Gone For the “Gold” and Failed? Do You Know Why?

Sheryl — Mon, 25 Jan 2010 12:38:15 +0000

In a couple of weeks the Winter Olympics will take place in Vancouver, BC. Athletes from all over the world have come to compete for the coveted “Gold” medallion; showing that they are the best in the world at their sport.

Having the Olympics in my own back yard (I live in Mission, just one hour east of Vancouver), started me thinking about the times I’ve gone for my own “Gold” and the number of times that I’ve failed. I’ve tried a number of different businesses: home party plans; network marketing, commodity trading, various sales jobs, management positions, etc. Also, I’m a registered nurse by profession and still work part time as a nurse.

I worked very hard at some of those businesses and spent a lot of money I didn’t have, trying to make them successful. So why weren’t they? There are many reasons: some good, some bad. For some of them, the timing wasn’t right. For some, I became disillusioned with the company or I decided that this was not what I wanted to do with my life. However, with a couple of businesses I gave everything I had, trying to make them successful. I put in the time, the effort and the money. I attended the sales training and motivational courses. I was taught by some of the motivational gurus of our time: Bob Proctor, Brian Tracey, Steven Covey. I did the Fire Walk with Tony Robbins!

I had all of the information – but there was no transformation! I should have been making money hand over fist. But an interesting thing kept happening. I would start to succeed and then I would start to sabotage. I had no idea why.

Now I know why. I had a negative belief system about my ability to succeed. I had no idea it was there but it affected everything I tried to do in life. I believed that I could not succeed; that I didn’t deserve to be successful; that I was a failure. And I had to be true to that belief system, no matter how untrue or negative it was. So every time I started to succeed, I found myself out of my comfort, or not comfortable but familiar, zone. I then unknowingly, started to sabotage my efforts, so that I could get back to where I subconsciously believed I belonged.

Each of us has a belief system about ourselves, usually instilled in our early childhood, before the age of awareness or understanding. For many of us, that belief system is negative. It was not instilled deliberately in most cases. Our parents were going through their own “stuff” and couldn’t give us what they didn’t have themselves. They did the best they knew how with the level of awareness and understanding they had at the time. But for many of us, our self esteem was damaged and we grew up with a negative belief system about ourselves.

How do you know if you have a negative belief system? Just look at the quality of your life: physically, socially, emotionally, financially, in your relationships or performance, etc. If there are problems, you have a negative belief system in that area. The problems will not be eliminated until you change that negative belief, because you have to be true to your belief system.

Although we are not responsible for creating them, we are responsible for continuing to live by them. Our parents may have “done it to us” but when we move away, we continue to do it to ourselves.

Once we stop blaming our parents, other people or circumstances for our problems and accept that we are responsible for what we do with the rest of our lives, the exciting news is that we can then develop the power to break that negative conditioning. We can create a better, more affirming belief system and finally be free to do, have or be what we want!

There is a tool that can help you learn what your negative belief system is. More important, it can then help you to break it! It took me over fifty years to find it. The negative belief system that had controlled my entire life is now gone! I am finally doing what I want to do with my life! I am succeeding!

What is the tool? Emotional Freedom Technique; also called EFT or Tapping. On Tuesday, February 16th, a three hour seminar is being presented in Abbotsford, that will teach you how to use this tool to break your own negative emotional blocks. For more information, go to: http://www.SherylStanton.com/stressfreemeseminar.html