I know I said that this would be my last blog on the fear of change but since then I have found a wonderful quotation that I want to share with you.  It was written by Marianne Williamson, from A Return to Love.

She said: “Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate.  Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.  It is our light, not our darkness, that frightens us.  We ask ourselves: Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented and fabulous?  Actually, who are you not to be?  You are a child of God.  Your playing small doesn’t serve the world.  There’s nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you.  We are all meant to shine, as children do.  We were born to manifest the glory of God that is within us.  It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone.  And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same.  As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”

Inspiring, isn’t it?  It makes me stand a little taller and feel more confident in my ability to accomplish the dreams and goals that I have.

If there are dreams and goals that you have stored away, maybe now is the time to get them out, dust them off and finally go for it. 

This is my last blog on the “Fear of Change” - probably.

It is amazing how much you do change as you work towards achieving a goal.  Many, many times it is the actual process of  learning, trying and working towards the goal that is of the greatest value.  The value is in the striving - not the achieving.  Although the achievement is wonderful in itself, it really is just a way of keeping track.

Also, in the striving for the goal, the actual goal may change.  We become different people in our learning and growing and working to achieve.  In the process, we may find that what we originally thought we wanted, isn’t really want we want after all.

There is a wonderful quote by C.S. Lewis in the book “Mere Christianity” that refers to this idea.  You might find it as encouraging as I did when I first read it.  It probably has extra meaning for me because what started this whole “Fear of Change” blog series was our kitchen remodelling. Read the rest of this entry »

This blog is written for all those people who experience a “fear of change” when they try to improve their lives or go for their dream.  Inevitably, they will come up against risks and demands that threaten to stop them. 

In my last blog, I outlined a simple exercise that will help you identify exactly what is causing your fear.  In this blog, we will go through the steps of EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) to eliminate the fear, so that you can stay on course and not give up on your dream. Read the rest of this entry »

This blog is for all of us who have allowed the “fear of change” to stop us from going after our dreams and goals.

In my last blog I said that one of the reasons we may not be getting what we want out of life is because we let the demands and risks of going for our dreams allow our fear of change to stop us.

I quoted Bob Proctor in his book “Born Rich”, where he said: “All too often the things that we desire are not the things that we expect because we allow the demands and the risks to control whether or not we will do what is necessary to get our desires.”

He also said: “Worry is the opposite of expectation, using the same energy.  Worry sets up a magnetic force that attracts things of a like nature or events or people to cause that worry state to eventually manifest itself in one’s life.”

What he is saying is that whatever we concentrate on is going to happen in our lives - either good or bad.

So why do 80% of people fail to reach their goals and dreams?  Read the rest of this entry »

This is another blog on the way “fear of change” can interfere with our dreams and goals.

How many of us have dreamed of doing, having or being something that we don’t have now?  Do you remember when we were teenagers and young adults?  We were going to conquer the world, be rich, famous and live a life of fun and excitement!  We were going to have it all! Read the rest of this entry »

This blog is for all people who want to change something in their lives but at the same time they are afraid to make the changes.  This applies to almost all of us. 

I once heard a statement.  I don’t know who said it.  “A coward dies a thousand deaths; a hero, only once.”  At the time, I didn’t understand what it meant.  I do now.  A hero is killed and thats the end.  A coward relives the fear of dying again and again and again - he dies a thousand times, in his mind!

Mark Twain commented on this very thing when he said: “I have been through some terrible things in my life - some of which actually happened!” 

Most of the time, we never experience what it is that we fear.

Tony Robbins, the motivational speaker, defined fear as:   

F - alse       E - evidence     A-ppearing      R - eal

Let’s not let Fear cheat us out of some of the most exciting, rewarding experiences of our lives.

This blog is written for all those people who have a fear of change ( probably all of us to some degree).

In my last blog, I asked how many of us put off doing things that we do really want because of a fear of change?  I asked how many of us choose to remain in our comfortable - or uncomfortable - ruts, because they are familiar to us?

I said that in my next blog I would share one way to identify what the fear is that is holding us back from getting what we want out of life.

The best way that I have found is to sit quietly and use the following form to identify the cause of my fears.  Basically, I just fill in the blanks.  I hope that you find it as useful. Read the rest of this entry »

This post is for all of us who have a fear of change or want to over come a fear.   

Our kitchen desperately needed to be rennovated.   All of the appliances were wearing out.   The fridge clunked every time the motor shut off.   The only way we could keep the oven door closed was to lock it.   The dishwasher leaked.   The linoleum floor had lifted and curled in several places.   The cupboards were so narrow you had to turn the pots sideways to get them in.

For the last year, my husband and I have been planning to build our dream kitchen.   This has been a wonderful experience for us.   We studied magazines and visited different kitchen displays.   We chose cupboard styles, cabinets, hardwood floors, new lights, all new appliances, furniture.   It has been so much fun! We arranged financing and set the day to start.  

But then things started to interfere.   First, our daughter decided to get married and we planned a garden wedding and reception.   We knew the kitchen wouldn’t be done in time, so we postponed it.   Then it was my husband’s 60th birthday, which meant a big party - so we had to postpone the kitchen rennovations again.

Then finally, we could start.   But suddenly, I was afraid.   I shocked myself.   I had been dreaming about this all year and now, I didn’t want to get started.   What was this all about? Read the rest of this entry »