This is my four year old grand daughter Mekenah, and her mother, my daughter Shauna.  It looks like they have huge eyes, doesn’t it?   The reality is that those huge eyes are just painted on.  Their real eyes are closed.

This picture symbolizes the way that so many of us live our lives.  We think that we see what is going on but that isn’t true.  We may see what is happening or not happening in our lives but most of us are completely blind to the cause.

We usually blame other people for our problems.  We say things like “It’s my parents fault!  It’s my teachers fault!  It’s my bosses fault!  It’s the government’s fault!  It’s God’s fault”  etc.

Or we may blame circumstances.  “If only I had a better education, were younger, were older, were prettier, were skinnier,  had more money, grew up in a better neighborhood, etc.

The truth is that we do not know why we do the things we do.  Or conversely, we  don’t know why we do not do the things that we want to do.  As a result, we keep getting results that we don’t want to have.  That knowledge is buried in our subconscious or below conscious mind.  And it is our subconscious mind, with it’s negative emotional conditioning,  that controls us.

If you are not living, doing, being or having what you want in any area of your life; in that area, you have negative emotional conditioning that is stopping you!  Until that negative emotional conditioning is eliminated, nothing is going to change in that area of your life.

In my 60 years of living, 8 years of research and 5 years of working as a stress relief specialist, the most powerful tool I have found for eliminating negative emotional conditioning is Emotional Freedom Technique, also called EFT or Tapping.

If you would like to stop being blind, remove the negative emotional conditioning, finally see clearly and move forward with your life, I invite you to learn how EFT can help you.

There are two opportunities coming up:

1.  First, is a 3 hour seminar, called: “the True Cause of Your Problems and How to Eliminate Them”.  The date is Wednesday, May 18^th from 7 to 10 pm.  The address is the Renaissance Retirement Resort at 6676 203rd St, Langley.

The link is: Langley2TrueCauseofYourProblemsandHowtoEliminateThem

2. Second, is the “Bliss and Balance for Life” 2-day Release Event.  The dates are Saturday and Sunday, June 11^th and 12^th from 9 to 5 each day.  The address is the same as above: Renaissance Retirement Resort at 6676 203rd St, Langley.

The link is:  JuneBlissandBalanceforLife2dayReleaseEvent

If you are unable to attend either of these two events and would

like more information, just email me at stressrelief@shaw.ca

Sheryl Stanton RN, Stress Relief Specialist

Recipient of the “Woman of Worth” Health and Wellness Award for 2010

A couple of days ago I received an email from this same client.  She has given me permission to share it with you, including her full name.   This brave lady said  that she wants the whole world to know that there is hope for a new life.  So, it is will great joy and humility that I share her comments with you now.

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“Hi Sheryl,

In your last newsletter, you mentioned what I said about, “killing time ’til I die” and how we rely on addictions to get us through.  I, like your Mom, was drinking myself into a stupor whenever I could.  I knew I was an alcoholic but considered myself a “functioning” one, whatever that is.

From our first session last month, I have not wanted a drink.  I have not thought about it or craved it.  I have been to the pub a few times with friends and even spent the night at one of their houses; where we used to drink ourselves into a stupor ’til we passed out.  She did try a couple of times to slip a drink in front of me and I just pushed it away.

I had been getting more unhappy with waking up not remembering the night before and was considering getting help but I thought it would be extremely hard to quit.  I find it  amazing that I do not feel withdrawals or cravings.  The desire is just gone!  I know that, with your help, I have resolved the reason for the drinking in the first place. 

I want you to know how wonderfully our session affected me, Sheryl.  I have been so much happier this last month.  It feels like this little bubble is growing inside of me.  I feel so much better in all aspects of my life.

With much appreciation,

Lorna Wilson, Langley, BC

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If you are just “killing time til you die”, there is hope and there is help.  You can either have private, individual coaching with me, where we will focus completely on helping you eliminate those negative belief systems that are keeping you from having, doing or being what you want in life.

Or you can take one of my “Bliss and Balance for Life” two-day Release Events, where I will help you learn how to apply Emotional Freedom Technique to resolve your problems.  Just go to my website at www.SherylStanton.com and click on the “Events” tab to learn when they are being held.

I guess the reason it hit me so hard is that is exactly what my mother did.  My mother was a bitter, unhappy woman for most of her life.  For the last ten years of her life, she was practically a recluse.  She would get up at six in the morning and drink coffee, smoke cigarettes and play Solitaire until 2:00 pm. 

Then it was happy hour.  The coffee pot would be put away and she would drink whisky, smoke cigarettes and read pocket books until she went to bed at 7:00 pm.  That was her life until she willed herself to death at the age of 68.  What a tragedy!

In the five years that I have been working as a stress relief specialist, I have learned that my mother was not unique.  There are a great many people out there who have given up on life.  Who think that there is no hope, so why bother trying any more. 

So they numb their pain with a variety of addictions.  Or they bury it and pretend that everything is all right.  But it isn’t.  Nor will it ever be – until they eliminate the negative belief systems that are causing them to feel this way. 

I call it emotional mud and I was covered in it at one time in my life.  But I learned of a wonderful soap that would wash away emotional mud.  It is called Emotional Freedom Technique, EFT or Tapping.  

With the help of a skilled EFT practitioner and my own efforts, I was able to wash away my own emotional mud.  I was then free to reclaim my own personal power, restore my own peace and happiness and start rebuilding my life – the way I wanted it to be!  I have never been happier or felt more fulfilled.

If you are just “killing time til you die”, there is hope and there is help.  You can either have private, individual coaching with me, where we will focus completely on helping you eliminate those negative belief systems that are keeping you from having, doing or being what you want in life.

Or you can take one of my “Bliss and Balance for Life” two-day Release Events, where I will help you learn how to apply EFT to resolve your problems.  Just go to my website at www.SherylStanton.com and click on the “Events” tab to learn when they are being held.

Unfortunately, on average, about 80% of those same people will have quit making the effort and gone back to the same old, same old, before January 20th.  Why do you suppose that is? 

There are lots of articles on how to keep your New Year’s Resolutions and just as many articles written about why most people fail to keep them.  But I’ve never read an article that gives what I think is the main reason for the failures.

I believe the real reason we go back to what we were doing before is because there is an emotional payoff for doing it.  We get something from it; otherwise we wouldn’t be doing it.

I don’t drink or smoke, so I can’t identify with that but I do know about my New Year’s Resolutions to lose weight.  So I will use that as an example.

I was an emotional eater.  Whenever I got stressed or upset, I would go to the fridge or the store.  And it was never celery or carrot sticks that I wanted.  It was rich, creamy carbs that I craved; especially chocolate.

When I would eat chocolate, I would calm down and feel better.  Chocolate was rich and delicious and comforted me.  I didn’t eat it all the time but when I got stressed, I would binge. I would eat three of the large chocolate bars at one time, or a whole bag of chocolate chips.  One time I ate a one pound solid chocolate bunny – and had the world’s worst migraine headache!

So, even though I was packing on the pounds and hating how I looked, I still continued to eat.  Why?  Because it made me feel better!  There was an emotional payoff that I was getting.

I was in my 50′s before I learned about the negative belief systems I’d had all of my life.  I learned that they were what caused me to feel unhappy, unsatisfied and unfulfilled. 

As I was able to eliminate these destructive belief systems, I noticed an interesting side effect. I lost almost 50 pounds within 7 months!   And it was easy!  Because I felt good about myself, I no longer needed the emotional comfort that I got from eating chocolate.

I believe this emotional payoff is why so many diets fail.  A person may have the willpower and discipline to get the weight off.  But unless they have eliminated the underlying reason that caused them to put the weight on in the first place, they will just gain it back again.  That is why we see so many yo-yo dieters.  They lose the weight and then gain it back again, multiple times. 

Let’s transfer now to smoking.  What usually happens when people stop smoking?  They gain weight!  Why?  Because they still have the underlying emotional problem they were using cigarettes to pacify. Only now they are using a different pacifier: food.

I think people are  failing to solve their problems because they are starting at the wrong end.  Instead of trying to eliminate the comfort “whatever it is”, they should work on eliminating the emotional problem that is causing them to comfort themselves.

The tool that first opened my eyes to the negative belief systems I had was Emotional Freedom Technique (also called EFT or Tapping). It was also EFT that  helped me to eliminate the emotional problems I had because of them.  

 EFT made a world of difference in my own life.  For the five years that I have been working as a stress relief specialist, I have seen it create miracles in the lives of my clients.

If you are really serious about keeping your New Year’s Resolution this year, you might want to consider eliminating the cause first.  When the cause is gone, the symptom (smoking, drinking, overeating, workaholism, whatever) will also disappear.

What have you got to lose?  What do you want to gain?  What you want is possible, if you start at the beginning, instead of the end.

 I can help you do that! 

Sheryl Stanton  RN

Stress Relief Specialist

Recipient of the “Woman of Worth” Health and Wellness Award for 2010

 www.SherylStanton.com    email:  stressrelief@shaw.ca       phone: (604) 302 6374

We had a family gathering last week that one of my sons refused to attend.  One of his brothers had said and done something to him a couple of months earlier that was very hurtful and he refused to come to any activity if his brother was going to be there.

What his brother did and said was wrong.  I’m not excusing his actions at all.  But he did apologize twice.  He apologized in his own way, which to many people and certainly to my son, was not an apology at all.  So, the apologies were not accepted and now my two sons are estranged from each other.  How sad!

And yet I wonder, who is suffering the most?   I think it is my son who didn’t accept the apology and continues to brood about the wrong that was done to him.   He thinks about it all the time.  He feels the hurt and pain again and again.

Not only that, he has deprived himself of fun activities by refusing to join us for family gatherings.  He stays home alone in his apartment and broods while we have fun together. 

The biggest problem here, although he would deny it completely,  is that my son has given away his own personal power to his brother.  The brother, who he is so hurt and angry at, is the one who is controlling my hurt son’s emotions – and  actions!

If you let someone else’s words or actions affect how you are going to think or behave, they are in control of your life!  Is this what you want?

I understand how my son feels because I used to do the same thing.  Someone would say or do something that offended me and then I didn’t want anything to do with them any more.  But one time, I cared too much about the relationship to end it in such a negative way, so I screwed up my courage, went to see them and told them how I felt. 

The other person was completely flabbergasted!  They had no idea that they had said or done anything to hurt my feelings.  We were able to resolve the problem immediately and kept our friendship.

I have continued to apply that principle over the years.  In most cases, people do not set out deliberately to hurt or offend us.  Many times they are not even aware that you are upset.  When it is brought to their attention, the problem can be resolved.  If it isn’t, at least you have made the effort and you have kept your power. 

You can recognize that they are having a problem, and it is not your fault.   That allows you to keep your power and your peace.  You are in control of your life and your emotions then – not someone else.

If you have trouble doing this, I can help you. 

Who am I and why would you want to listen to me?

If you are ready to get rid of the unresolved anger in your life, I can help you.  You can reach me through my website: www.SherylStanton.com, by email at stressrelief@shaw.ca or by phone at (604) 302 6374.

If you are ready to wash away the emotional mud in your own life, I can help you.  You can reach me through my website: www.SherylStanton.com, by email at stressrelief@shaw.ca or by phone at (604) 302 6374.

If you are ready to wash away the emotional mud in your own life, I can help you.  You can reach me through my website: www.SherylStanton.com, by email at stressrelief@shaw.ca or by phone at (604) 302 6374.

This short video clip identifies the second biggest mistake.  To view the video, click on this link:             2nd biggest mistake.

I would love to hear your comments.

      Sheryl Stanton RN

Cottonwood seed - summer snow

 As I was walking along a forest path a couple of days ago, I saw an amazing thing.  It was snowing – in July!  White puffy flakes were falling from the sky, while the sun was shining! 

 On the ground, was a layer of white.  Of course, it was cottonwood seed time and instead of snow flakes, the sky and the ground was full of cotton wood seeds.

I noticed something interesting about the way the seeds were falling to the earth.  In the sheltered areas, the seeds gently floated to the ground.  But in the open areas, the seeds were blown in every direction by the wind.

I thought of how little control the cottonwood seeds had as to what their final destination was going to be.  I looked at the seeds all around me.  Some landed in the river beside the path and were drowned.  Some landed on the gravel pathway, where they were wasted.  Some landed in the trees.  Some were lucky enough to land on fertile ground, where they could germinate and become what they were meant to be – new cottonwood trees.

The cottonwood tree takes into account that most of its seeds will be wasted and creates millions of seeds.

Then I thought about people and how many of them are just like the cottonwood seeds.  They are being blown about by every wind or influence that comes into their lives.  They have no sense of direction or purpose and seem to fall into their lives by accident.  The big difference between us and the cottonwood tree, is that we only have one life to live.

Look at your own life.  Are you living the life that you thought you would?  Did you purposefully choose to do what you are doing now?

Fortunately for us, unlike the cottonwood seed, if we don’t like where we’ve landed, we can move and change.  We don’t have to stay in stressful situations and suffer problems with our health, relationships and finances.

If you would like help getting stress relief,  out of a bad situation or finding a new direction, I can help you!

Who am I and why would you want to listen to me?

My name is Sheryl Stanton. I’m a registered nurse, stress relief specialist, speaker and trainer.  I’m the author of three stress-relief books and DVD sets.  In May, I was chosen to receive the “Woman of Worth” Health and Wellness Award for 2010.

But more important, I am a Stress Conqueror.  I know what it is like to suffer from unrelieved stress.  I got sick with a stress-related illness that put me in bed for three months.  Western medicine could do nothing to help me and I was told that I would have to accept a limited lifestyle at the age of 45. 

This was not something I was willing to do.  I  studied Complementary Health and Energy Healing for eight years.  I got my health back!  More important, I got my life back!  And I learned what to do to make sure it never happens again.  Now, I share that information with others. 

If you are ready to make a change in your life, I can help you.  You can reach me through my website: www.SherylStanton.com, by email at stressrelief@shaw.ca or by phone at (604) 302 6374.