????? ??????A 21 year old man came to me two weeks ago with a history of life-long, incapacitating anxiety and panic attacks; to the point where he was unable to function. Tony (name has been changed) said that it was not uncommon for him to have several panic attacks a day! At the age of 21, he was already on a government disability pension.

I learned that Tony was 10 pounds, 5 ounces when he was born to a first-time mother. The labour was 43 hours long and he finally had to be delivered by forceps. During the actual birth, Tony’s collar bone was broken.

Small children, especially babies, do not have a logical mind.  They function strictly on emotion.  And Tony’s first experience of life was one of pain and fear.  At a cellular level, Tony was programmed that life was painful and dangerous and that he was not safe.  This programming became his subconscious belief system.  No wonder he had anxiety and panic attacks!  It is almost like he had Post Traumatic Stress Disorder from birth!

With this information, I was able to use Emotional Freedom Technique (also called EFT or Tapping) to do a Birth Repatterning Balance on Tony.  At the end of the balance, Tony said that he felt calmer.

I waited with interest for Tony’s next stress-relief coaching session to see what his experience had been for the previous two weeks.  When he arrived, Tony said that he had not had even one panic attack in the whole two week time period!  He said that it was a miracle and I had to agree with him.

It has been my experience, both in my personal life and as a stress-relief specialist, that almost every limitation or long-lasting problem originated in childhood experiences or the lack of them.  Many of these start around birth.

 There are other types of Beginning Life Issues beside Birth Trauma:

1.  Conception and Pregnancy: The emotional state of the mother can have a profound effect on the baby she is carrying.  There have been enough studies now to validate the belief that the baby experiences the same emotions as the mother, because the same hormones are going through the baby’s blood as are going through the mothers.

I know this from personal experience.  My mother was 17 when I was born.  She didn’t want to be married and she certainly didn’t want to be a mother at 17.  I was born knowing that I wasn’t wanted.

Of course, I did’t learn about this until my middle 50′s when I experienced an EFT Birth Repatterning Balance myself.  I had just gone through my whole life feeling that I wasn’t good enough as I was and was compelled to try to prove my worth by what I did.  And it didn’t matter what I did, I still didn’t feel that I had any value.

Please don’t misunderstand me here.  I am not criticizing my mother.  She did the best she could with the level of understanding and awareness she had at the time.  At least 75% of my clients come to me with self-worth issues; many stemming from conception belief systems.

2. 0 to 6 Months: This is such a crucial time in the life of a child.  This is where they bond with their caregiver.  They have a desperate need to feel love, warmth and  attention as well as food and protection.  If they don’t receive this emotional nurturing, they can actually die!  At least, they may develop emotional bonding issues.

Unfortunately, I am ashamed to say that I created this problem for one of my children.  An older, more experienced mother said that she made her children fit into her schedule and I thought that was a great idea.  She also starting feeding her children solid food right away.  So I did the same.

My first child was 8 1/2 pounds and was able to handle the solid food right away but my next child was only 7 1/2 pounds.  He couldn’t and suffered severe stomach cramps.  For the first 3 months of his life, he cried himself to sleep, sitting up in a car seat because he was in so much pain.  However, I was determined that he would fit my schedule, so I persisted.

Looking back, I can’t believe I did that and I have had to do some serious EFT tapping on being able to forgive myself for my stupidity and ignorant cruelty.  The result for this child is that his perception of the world is that people are not to be trusted and his relationships, so far, have been pretty superficial

3.  6 Months to 2 Years:  This is the age where the child starts to explore and learn what they can and cannot do.  Often toilet training is around this time as well.  If the child is restricted or overprotected they may grow up believing that they’re not capable.  The same is true if they are pushed too hard, consistently harshly criticized or disciplined.  They can grow up believing that they are not good enough, that there is something wrong with them and they don’t deserve to have good things.

4.  2 Years to 6 Years:  This is when we develop our idea of self – who we are and where we fit in the world.  One huge area of stress can be a child’s introduction to school and organized learning.  Several of my clients were so traumatized by early education experiences that they have emotional blocks to reading, math or learning in general. This negative programming affects the quality of the rest of their life.

When we remove the emotional blocks by using a tool such as Emotional Freedom Technique, the body, mind and spirit can heal itself!  These blocks are is just bad programming.

The life you are living today was programmed by someone else.  In many cases, it was programmed in error.  The truly exciting news is that you have the ability to reprogram your life – the way you want it to be!  You can start living your life on purpose!

The place to start is eliminating the negative emotional blocks that have held you back from being, doing and having what you want in life.  EFT can help you do that. How privileged I feel to be able to share this wonderful healing tool with others.

If there is a problem in any area of your life; in that area it is possible you also an emotional block that is stopping you from having the quality of life you want.  If you are ready to get rid of it, I am ready to help you help yourself.

Sheryl Stanton RN

What do you see in this picture?

This is my four year old grand daughter Mekenah, and her mother, my daughter Shauna.  It looks like they have huge eyes, doesn’t it?   The reality is that those huge eyes are just painted on.  Their real eyes are closed.

This picture symbolizes the way that so many of us live our lives.  We think that we see what is going on but that isn’t true.  We may see what is happening or not happening in our lives but most of us are completely blind to the cause.

We usually blame other people for our problems.  We say things like “It’s my parents fault!  It’s my teachers fault!  It’s my bosses fault!  It’s the government’s fault!  It’s God’s fault”  etc.

Or we may blame circumstances.  “If only I had a better education, were younger, were older, were prettier, were skinnier,  had more money, grew up in a better neighborhood, etc.

The truth is that we do not know why we do the things we do.  Or conversely, we  don’t know why we do not do the things that we want to do.  As a result, we keep getting results that we don’t want to have.  That knowledge is buried in our subconscious or below conscious mind.  And it is our subconscious mind, with it’s negative emotional conditioning,  that controls us.

If you are not living, doing, being or having what you want in any area of your life; in that area, you have negative emotional conditioning that is stopping you!  Until that negative emotional conditioning is eliminated, nothing is going to change in that area of your life.

In my 60 years of living, 8 years of research and 5 years of working as a stress relief specialist, the most powerful tool I have found for eliminating negative emotional conditioning is Emotional Freedom Technique, also called EFT or Tapping.

If you would like to stop being blind, remove the negative emotional conditioning, finally see clearly and move forward with your life, I invite you to learn how EFT can help you.

There are two opportunities coming up:

1.  First, is a 3 hour seminar, called: “the True Cause of Your Problems and How to Eliminate Them”.  The date is Wednesday, May 18^th from 7 to 10 pm.  The address is the Renaissance Retirement Resort at 6676 203rd St, Langley.

The link is: Langley2TrueCauseofYourProblemsandHowtoEliminateThem

2. Second, is the “Bliss and Balance for Life” 2-day Release Event.  The dates are Saturday and Sunday, June 11^th and 12^th from 9 to 5 each day.  The address is the same as above: Renaissance Retirement Resort at 6676 203rd St, Langley.

The link is:  JuneBlissandBalanceforLife2dayReleaseEvent

If you are unable to attend either of these two events and would

like more information, just email me at stressrelief@shaw.ca

Sheryl Stanton RN, Stress Relief Specialist

Recipient of the “Woman of Worth” Health and Wellness Award for 2010

The Olympics and Paralympics were held in Vancouver this year and it was an interesting experience.

I am not an athlete. I’m not interested in sports at all. As a matter of fact, when my husband starts talking to me about hockey, baseball, golf, football or whatever, my eyes glaze over.

I live one hour east of Vancouver, B.C. where the Winter Olympics were held this year. The province has been preparing for this event for the last five years and I have watched, cynically, as the proposed cost of the Olympics has probably quadrupled from what we were originally told it would cost us. Our children will probably still be paying for the privilege of having the Olympics and Paralympics here.

I wasn’t the least bit interested myself. But something unusual happened. In my opinion, Canadians are usually a pretty quiet, polite, reserved people. We leave the loud, exuberate patriotism to our neighbours to the south.

But suddenly everyone around me was sporting Canadiana. Canadian flags were in windows, painted on walls, attached to cars, on people’s clothing. Everyone was talking about how many medals we had won and what events were taking place.

My seven-month pregnant daughter and her husband took their three children: age 2, 4 and 6 into Vancouver for the day to see the special Olympic exhibits. Personally, I couldn’t imagine a more awful experience than to drag three little kids through the crowds all day while being seven months pregnant.

But I guess all the hoopla finally got to me. I decided that I would probably never again have the opportunity to participate in the Olympics. If I didn’t at least go into Vancouver and see some of the sights, I would regret it.

So, on the last Saturday of the Olympics (probably the worst time to go), in the rain, my husband and I drove part way in and then took the Sky Train into Vancouver. We had our picture taken in the Luge sled. I stood beside a First Nations man dressed in his ceremonial outfit and posed beside a statue of flying eagles.

Most of the time, we just walked around the city, in the rain. We walked from one venue to another, saw the two to four hour lineups for each one and decided we really didn’t want to see it that badly. Then we came home. But we went!

I watched my husband and son-in-law almost have heart attacks as the Canadian and American hockey team went into overtime, vying for the Gold – and Canada won! And I watched the closing ceremonies on TV.

I thought a lot about why events like the Olympics and Paralympics are so popular and I think the picture of the bird flying on the back of the eagle gives the reason. For a few days, we, the general public, get to rid on the backs of eagles. Their successes become our successes! Their Gold becomes our Gold. They are an inspiration to us.

There are many other eagles in our lives. Sometimes parents or grandparents. Sometimes teachers or coaches, political or social personalities will say or do something that will inspire us to try harder or be better. Think of the number of people that Oprah has helped to lift their vision.

I don’t remember who said it but I remember a quotation: “It is better to aim for the stars and drag your feet through the treetops than it is to aim for the treetops and drag your feet through the mud”.

Thank God for the eagles that help us see farther, try harder and fly higher than we would without their help!

If you are having a problem trying to be, do or have what you want in your life, it could be that there is hidden negative emotional conditioning that is holding you back. I can help you eliminate those, so that you can become an eagle and experience the thrill of flying yourself!

мебели от чам On February 22nd, I wrote an article about a comment  a new client had made to me.  She said that she had been “killing time ’til she died”.  In the article, I wrote about my mother, who had done the same thing and willed herself to death at the young age of 68.  I said that I thought there were many people who might be feeling the same way.  People who had given up on life, had no hopes or dreams and were just existing – killing time ’til they died.

A couple of days ago I received an email from this same client.  She has given me permission to share it with you, including her full name.   This brave lady said  that she wants the whole world to know that there is hope for a new life.  So, it is will great joy and humility that I share her comments with you now.

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“Hi Sheryl,

In your last newsletter, you mentioned what I said about, “killing time ’til I die” and how we rely on addictions to get us through.  I, like your Mom, was drinking myself into a stupor whenever I could.  I knew I was an alcoholic but considered myself a “functioning” one, whatever that is.

From our first session last month, I have not wanted a drink.  I have not thought about it or craved it.  I have been to the pub a few times with friends and even spent the night at one of their houses; where we used to drink ourselves into a stupor ’til we passed out.  She did try a couple of times to slip a drink in front of me and I just pushed it away.

I had been getting more unhappy with waking up not remembering the night before and was considering getting help but I thought it would be extremely hard to quit.  I find it  amazing that I do not feel withdrawals or cravings.  The desire is just gone!  I know that, with your help, I have resolved the reason for the drinking in the first place. 

I want you to know how wonderfully our session affected me, Sheryl.  I have been so much happier this last month.  It feels like this little bubble is growing inside of me.  I feel so much better in all aspects of my life.

With much appreciation,

Lorna Wilson, Langley, BC

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If you are just “killing time til you die”, there is hope and there is help.  You can either have private, individual coaching with me, where we will focus completely on helping you eliminate those negative belief systems that are keeping you from having, doing or being what you want in life.

Or you can take one of my “Bliss and Balance for Life” two-day Release Events, where I will help you learn how to apply Emotional Freedom Technique to resolve your problems.  Just go to my website at www.SherylStanton.com and click on the “Events” tab to learn when they are being held.

A potential new client sent me an email the other day.  One of the things she said really struck me.  She said that before she’d heard about me she was just “killing time til she died.” 

I guess the reason it hit me so hard is that is exactly what my mother did.  My mother was a bitter, unhappy woman for most of her life.  For the last ten years of her life, she was practically a recluse.  She would get up at six in the morning and drink coffee, smoke cigarettes and play Solitaire until 2:00 pm. 

Then it was happy hour.  The coffee pot would be put away and she would drink whisky, smoke cigarettes and read pocket books until she went to bed at 7:00 pm.  That was her life until she willed herself to death at the age of 68.  What a tragedy!

In the five years that I have been working as a stress relief specialist, I have learned that my mother was not unique.  There are a great many people out there who have given up on life.  Who think that there is no hope, so why bother trying any more. 

So they numb their pain with a variety of addictions.  Or they bury it and pretend that everything is all right.  But it isn’t.  Nor will it ever be – until they eliminate the negative belief systems that are causing them to feel this way. 

I call it emotional mud and I was covered in it at one time in my life.  But I learned of a wonderful soap that would wash away emotional mud.  It is called Emotional Freedom Technique, EFT or Tapping.  

With the help of a skilled EFT practitioner and my own efforts, I was able to wash away my own emotional mud.  I was then free to reclaim my own personal power, restore my own peace and happiness and start rebuilding my life – the way I wanted it to be!  I have never been happier or felt more fulfilled.

If you are just “killing time til you die”, there is hope and there is help.  You can either have private, individual coaching with me, where we will focus completely on helping you eliminate those negative belief systems that are keeping you from having, doing or being what you want in life.

Or you can take one of my “Bliss and Balance for Life” two-day Release Events, where I will help you learn how to apply EFT to resolve your problems.  Just go to my website at www.SherylStanton.com and click on the “Events” tab to learn when they are being held.

It is the time of year when many people make New Year’s Resolutions.  “This is the year”, they say, “when I am finally going to …. “  You fill in the blank: quit smoking, stop drinking, lose weight, get fit, work less, spend more time with my family, etc.

Unfortunately, on average, about 80% of those same people will have quit making the effort and gone back to the same old, same old, before January 20th.  Why do you suppose that is? 

There are lots of articles on how to keep your New Year’s Resolutions and just as many articles written about why most people fail to keep them.  But I’ve never read an article that gives what I think is the main reason for the failures.

I believe the real reason we go back to what we were doing before is because there is an emotional payoff for doing it.  We get something from it; otherwise we wouldn’t be doing it.

I don’t drink or smoke, so I can’t identify with that but I do know about my New Year’s Resolutions to lose weight.  So I will use that as an example.

I was an emotional eater.  Whenever I got stressed or upset, I would go to the fridge or the store.  And it was never celery or carrot sticks that I wanted.  It was rich, creamy carbs that I craved; especially chocolate.

When I would eat chocolate, I would calm down and feel better.  Chocolate was rich and delicious and comforted me.  I didn’t eat it all the time but when I got stressed, I would binge. I would eat three of the large chocolate bars at one time, or a whole bag of chocolate chips.  One time I ate a one pound solid chocolate bunny – and had the world’s worst migraine headache!

So, even though I was packing on the pounds and hating how I looked, I still continued to eat.  Why?  Because it made me feel better!  There was an emotional payoff that I was getting.

I was in my 50′s before I learned about the negative belief systems I’d had all of my life.  I learned that they were what caused me to feel unhappy, unsatisfied and unfulfilled. 

As I was able to eliminate these destructive belief systems, I noticed an interesting side effect. I lost almost 50 pounds within 7 months!   And it was easy!  Because I felt good about myself, I no longer needed the emotional comfort that I got from eating chocolate.

I believe this emotional payoff is why so many diets fail.  A person may have the willpower and discipline to get the weight off.  But unless they have eliminated the underlying reason that caused them to put the weight on in the first place, they will just gain it back again.  That is why we see so many yo-yo dieters.  They lose the weight and then gain it back again, multiple times. 

Let’s transfer now to smoking.  What usually happens when people stop smoking?  They gain weight!  Why?  Because they still have the underlying emotional problem they were using cigarettes to pacify. Only now they are using a different pacifier: food.

I think people are  failing to solve their problems because they are starting at the wrong end.  Instead of trying to eliminate the comfort “whatever it is”, they should work on eliminating the emotional problem that is causing them to comfort themselves.

The tool that first opened my eyes to the negative belief systems I had was Emotional Freedom Technique (also called EFT or Tapping). It was also EFT that  helped me to eliminate the emotional problems I had because of them.  

 EFT made a world of difference in my own life.  For the five years that I have been working as a stress relief specialist, I have seen it create miracles in the lives of my clients.

If you are really serious about keeping your New Year’s Resolution this year, you might want to consider eliminating the cause first.  When the cause is gone, the symptom (smoking, drinking, overeating, workaholism, whatever) will also disappear.

What have you got to lose?  What do you want to gain?  What you want is possible, if you start at the beginning, instead of the end.

 I can help you do that! 

Sheryl Stanton  RN

Stress Relief Specialist

Recipient of the “Woman of Worth” Health and Wellness Award for 2010

 www.SherylStanton.com    email:  stressrelief@shaw.ca       phone: (604) 302 6374

We had a family gathering last week that one of my sons refused to attend.  One of his brothers had said and done something to him a couple of months earlier that was very hurtful and he refused to come to any activity if his brother was going to be there.

What his brother did and said was wrong.  I’m not excusing his actions at all.  But he did apologize twice.  He apologized in his own way, which to many people and certainly to my son, was not an apology at all.  So, the apologies were not accepted and now my two sons are estranged from each other.  How sad!

And yet I wonder, who is suffering the most?   I think it is my son who didn’t accept the apology and continues to brood about the wrong that was done to him.   He thinks about it all the time.  He feels the hurt and pain again and again.

Not only that, he has deprived himself of fun activities by refusing to join us for family gatherings.  He stays home alone in his apartment and broods while we have fun together. 

The biggest problem here, although he would deny it completely,  is that my son has given away his own personal power to his brother.  The brother, who he is so hurt and angry at, is the one who is controlling my hurt son’s emotions – and  actions!

If you let someone else’s words or actions affect how you are going to think or behave, they are in control of your life!  Is this what you want?

I understand how my son feels because I used to do the same thing.  Someone would say or do something that offended me and then I didn’t want anything to do with them any more.  But one time, I cared too much about the relationship to end it in such a negative way, so I screwed up my courage, went to see them and told them how I felt. 

The other person was completely flabbergasted!  They had no idea that they had said or done anything to hurt my feelings.  We were able to resolve the problem immediately and kept our friendship.

I have continued to apply that principle over the years.  In most cases, people do not set out deliberately to hurt or offend us.  Many times they are not even aware that you are upset.  When it is brought to their attention, the problem can be resolved.  If it isn’t, at least you have made the effort and you have kept your power. 

You can recognize that they are having a problem, and it is not your fault.   That allows you to keep your power and your peace.  You are in control of your life and your emotions then – not someone else.

If you have trouble doing this, I can help you. 

Who am I and why would you want to listen to me?

If you are ready to get rid of the unresolved anger in your life, I can help you.  You can reach me through my website: www.SherylStanton.com, by email at stressrelief@shaw.ca or by phone at (604) 302 6374.

If you are ready to wash away the emotional mud in your own life, I can help you.  You can reach me through my website: www.SherylStanton.com, by email at stressrelief@shaw.ca or by phone at (604) 302 6374.

A few years ago, I attended a network marketing event for Neways in Atlanta, Georgia.  It was an international event, with people from all over the world attending.  For the opening night, a special program was planned with entertainment provided by each country.  A few months before the event, all Canadian distributors got an email, asking for ideas for the Canadian portion of the program. 

I remembered a song I’d learned as a Girl Guide in 1967, honoring the Canadian Federation, called “They All Call It Canada but I Call It Home”.  I also remembered another song, called “CANADA – We Love Thee”, which I then changed to fit the message of the network marketing company, Neways. 

It was fun to do and I sent it off to the Canadian headquarters, not expecting to hear anything more.  To my amazement, my suggestions were chosen.  (Of course, it may have been that no-one else submitted anything).

Anyway, I started to practice singing the songs; which my voice could handle until I got nervous and my vocal cords tightened up.  Then I started squeaking.  Just the thought of singing in front of 2000 people was enough to scare me silly, so I asked a couple of friends to help me.

We arrived two days early in Atlanta and I immediately got sick with a serious chest infection.  It was so bad that I spent the first day in the Emergency room of the hospital.  I had a definite crisis on my hands.  I had to go on stage and sing or I would let down my whole country.  But what could I do.  I was so sick, I could hardly speak – let alone sing.  I was definitely in panic mode.

Then I remembered something that John Smart, one of the Neways trainers, had said one time.  He said: “When you find yourself in the midst of a crisis, you are either on the edge of disaster or the verge of a miracle!”  I decided that I would test his statement.  I definitely was in the midst of a crisis and I was really needed and wanted a miracle. 

So, I said a very heart-felt prayer, got out of bed, got dressed and went to the program.  One benefit of being so sick is that I didn’t have enough energy to be scared while I was waiting back stage for our turn to perform.

When I did go on stage, I told everyone how I was feeling and what John had said.  I then asked them to join me in my fervent prayer that I would have the miracle I needed in order to do justice to the great country of Canada, that I called home (which was the title of the first song). 

The music started, I opened my mouth and I sang beautifully – all the way through both songs.  When it was over, so many people came up and said that they had got more from my performance than any of the others in the program.  I was still sick for most of the event but I had been able to do what I needed.

So, the next time you find yourself in the midst of a crisis, realize that you are on the edge of disaster or the verge or a miracle!  The choice is yours.  If you need help, I can help you!

Who Am I and Why Should You Listen to Me?

My name is Sheryl Stanton. I’m a registered nurse, stress relief specialist, speaker and trainer.  I’m the author of three stress-relief books and DVD sets.  In May, I was chosen to receive the “Woman of Worth” Health and Wellness Award for 2010.

But more important, I am a Stress Conqueror.  I know what it is like to suffer from unrelieved stress.  I got sick with a stress-related illness that put me in bed for three months.  Western medicine could do nothing to help me and I was told that I would have to accept a limited lifestyle at the age of 45. 

This was not something I was willing to do.  I  studied Complementary Health and Energy Healing for eight years.  I got my health back!  More important, I got my life back!  And I learned what to do to make sure it never happens again.  How, I share that information with others. 

If you are ready to make a change in your life, I can help you.  You can reach me through my website: www.SherylStanton.com, by email at stressrelief@shaw.ca or by phone at (604) 302 6374.

If you are ready to wash away the emotional mud in your own life, I can help you.  You can reach me through my website: www.SherylStanton.com, by email at stressrelief@shaw.ca or by phone at (604) 302 6374.