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Women’s Wellness Weekend Retreat Will Help You Wash the “Emotional Mud” From Your Spirit
 
Look at this baby.  See the sad, questioning eyes and the quivering lips?  Can you see that the baby is covered in mud and is unhappy about it?
 
That unhappy baby  is covered in ”Emotional Mud”.  Just like the baby, each one of us has some ”Emotional Mud” on our spirit. 
 
What is “Emotional Mud” and how do we get it?
 
As a baby, we were happy, confident, courageous, positive and loving.  But something happened.  Most of us lost that.  Today, less than 1 in 5 women feel good about themselves!
 
We were all raised by imperfect people who were trying to deal with their own “stuff”.  They may, or they may not have done the best they could, but each one of us was splashed with our own ”Emotional Mud”.  
 
 If we came from an abusive home, the emotional mud was dumped on our spirits.  If we came from a good home, it was dripped on.
 
Small children do not see their parents as individuals; with their own wants and needs.  They do not realize that their parent is sick or worried or tired.  All they see is that their “God” at that age, is angry or unhappy. 
 
And they interalize it as their fault. They are not good enough. There must be something wrong with them.  They are bad.  They don’t deserve to be treated well.
 
This “Emotional Mud” becomes the basis of the child’s belief system; who they think they are and what they think they deserve to have in life.  For the rest of their life, they will attract to themselves people and experiences that will validate their belief system, no matter how wrong or harmful it is.
 
This “Emotional Mud” belief system is subconscious (below conscious awareness).  This means that we are not aware that it is there but it controls every aspect of our lives – usually negatively. 
 
This is why we do things we don’t want to do.  Or why we don’t do things we do want to do.  Why we keep getting results we don’t want to have, no matter how hard we try.
 
And we will continue this behavior all through our adult life - until we become aware of our “Emotional Mud” belief system and wash it off.
 
Think of your own childhood and then think of what is happening in your life right now.  If you are having a problem in any area of your life; in that area you have an “Emotional Mud” negative belief system.  Your life will never improve (in that area) until you wash away the emotional mud.
 
And it can be easily done – if you use the right kind of soap!
 
The Women’s Wellness Weekend Retreat, being held on Sept. 17 to 19 at a comfortable lodge half way between Mission and Maple Ridge, will reveal the kind of soap needed to wash away “Emotional Mud”. 
 
It will also teach you how to use the ”soap” to help resolve some of the problems caused by “Emotional Mud”: health issues, relationshop problems, financial difficulties, addictions, parenting problems, work or career stress, etc.
 
For more information on the Women’s Wellness Weekend Retreat, go to: www.WomensWellnessWeekend.net, email: stressrelief@shaw.ca or call (604) 302-6374.
 
 
My name is Sheryl Stanton.  I’m a registered nurse, stress relief specialist, author of four stress-relief books and DVD courses.  I had the honor of being chosen to receive the “Woman of Worth” Health and Wellness Award for 2010.
 
I connect people to the TRUE CAUSE of their Stress.  Then, I help them ELIMINATE IT – FOREVER!
 
Join me at the Women’s Wellness Weekend Retreat and let me show you how!  It could be the most important decision you ever make!

A previous post discussed the third biggest mistake that women over 30 were making that was keeping them unhappy, unhealthy and unhappy.

This short video clip identifies the second biggest mistake.  To view the video, click on this link:             2nd biggest mistake.

I would love to hear your comments.

      Sheryl Stanton RN
      Stress Relief Specialist
 
      Winner of the “Women of Worth” Health and Wellness Award for 2010
 
(604) 302-6374
Do you know what the Third Biggest Mistake Women Over 30 are Making that is Keeping Them Unhappy, Unhealthy and Unfulfilled?
 
This short video clip will tell you.    Third Biggest Mistake Women Over 30 Are Making
 
     Sheryl Stanton RN
     Stress Relief Specialist
 
                                 (604) 302 -6374
 

 

 
I attended the ”Women of Worth” Conference with 700 other women at the Hotel Vancouver on Saturday, May 29th.  I had a table display there but I was also there for another reason.
 
I was there as a finalist for the “Women of Worth” Health and Wellness Award for 2010.  What made it especially meaningful for me, is that it was two of my private stress-relief clients who nominated me. 
 
To my delight, I was chosen to receive the award!  You can see in the picture that I am standing beside Christine Awram, the president and founder of “Women of Worth”. 
 
 I didn’t start out to be a stress relief specialist.  Originally, I was just looking for a way to get my own health back after being in bed for three months with a stress-related illness.  I was told at the age of 45 that I was going to have to accept a limited lifestyle. 
 
This was not something I was willing to do, so I started searching and I went outside of Western medicine because they had no answers for me.  For eight years I studied many different branches of complementary health and energy medicine.
 
I did get my health back.  More important, I found out why I got sick in the first place. I learned about the negative belief systems, the “Emotional Mud”  on my spirit, that that  affected every area of my life – negatively. 
 
Most important, I learned how to make sure that it never happened again.  Using a powerful stress-reduction tool called Emotional Freedom Technique, I was able to break those negative emotional hooks or blocks and wash away the “Emotional Mud”. 
 
I am now free to do the things and be the person I’ve always wanted to be.  I’d wanted to be a speaker for thirty five years but didn’t believe I had anything worthwhile to say.  I’d always wanted to write but who would want to read anything I’d written?
 
As I grew in knowledge and experience, I learned that many people felt the same way I had.  I started sharing my knowledge with others and found to my amazement that not only did people want to know, that I loved to do it.
 
After seaching for over half a century, I’d finally found out what I was supposed to do with my life!  I love to speak and I’ve written four books and created four DVD courses; including: the Personal Peace Program, “Stress-Free? – Me?”, “Stress-Free Parenting: fact or fiction?” and “Work-Stress? – Not a Problem!” 
 
My greatest joy is to see the changes in my client’s lives as they break their own negative emotional blocks and wash away their own “Emotional Mud”.
 
So what I do as a stress relief specialist.  I work individually with private clients, either in person or over the phone.  I present my own seminars and retreats.  And I speak to organizations and businesses about their aspects of stress relief.
 
On Wednesday, June 16th from 7:00 to 10:00 pm in Burnaby, I am presenting a three hour  ”Stress-Free? – Me?”  seminar.  Click on the following link to watch a short video explanation of the seminar.  “Stress-Free? – Me?” – Absolutely!  If you are unable to attend the seminar, you can still get the information by checking out “Easy Stress Free Me!”
 
I hope you can join us. 
 
Sheryl Stanton
RN, Stress Relief Specialist
Winner of the “Women of Worth” Health and Wellness Award for 2010
 
 
 

In a couple of weeks the Winter Olympics will take place in Vancouver, BC.  Athletes from all over the world have come to compete for the coveted “Gold” medallion; showing that they are the best in the world at their sport. 

Having the Olympics in my own back yard (I live in Mission, just one hour east of Vancouver), started me thinking about the times I’ve gone for my own “Gold” and the number of times that I’ve failed.  I’ve tried a number of different businesses: home party plans; network marketing, commodity trading, various sales jobs, management positions, etc.  Also, I’m a registered nurse by profession and still work part time as a nurse. 

I worked very hard at some of those businesses and spent a lot of money I didn’t have, trying to make them successful.  So why weren’t they?  There are many reasons: some good, some bad.  Read the rest of this entry »

Which is the Greater Miracle: Birth or Growth?

Tuesday, January 5, 2010 posted by Sheryl

Which is the Greater Miracle: Birth or Growth?

On December 18th, I had the privilege of attending the birth of my sixth grandchild and helping to care for him for the first few days of his life.

 I think there are few things more soul-filling than to have a new baby sleep on your shoulder; to lightly touch his velvety skin with your cheek and smell that fleeting new baby smell.

As I held that beautiful baby in my arms, I thought of the six babies that I had given birth to; three of whom are parents themselves now.  People talk about the miracle of birth and I agree; but to me, growth is just as great a miracle.  To think that a newborn, helpless babe can grow up to one day create a child of their own is truly stunning!

But birth and physical growth is a natural event.  We didn’t have anything to do with our birth and until we’re old enough to start making choices that could interfere with the process, we don’t have much control over our physical growth either.

However, we have 100% total control over our personal growth.  This is the time of year when people make, and usually break, New Year’s Resolutions.  You know the ones I’m talking about.  This is the year that I lose weight, get out of debt, start that business, take that holiday, etc. However, statistics show that 90% of New Year’s Resolutions are broken before February 1st.

Why is that?  There are lots of reasons given but through my own experiences and the many years of research I’ve done on this subject, I think it boils down to one answer.  The goal is outside of the person’s belief system about themselves. 

We each have a belief system about who and what we are, and we have to be true to it – even if it is negative and harmful (which it usually is). Our belief systems were installed, usually by our families, and were well established before we even went to school. 

As a stress relief coach, I’ve found that the majority of negative belief systems involve having no value as yourself – only in what you do, being responsible to meet other people’s needs and being a failure, not deserving of good things.

This conditioning is subconscious (below the conscious mind level), so we are not aware that it’s there.  However, until you change that conditioning and remove these negative emotional blocks, you will never be able to grow.

The exciting news is that you can change your belief systems.  You can break the negative emotional blocks that are keeping you from being, doing or having what you want in your life.  The most powerful tool I’ve found to accomplish this, is Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT). 

I was a motivational course junkie for over 30 years.  I took dozens of self improvement courses.  I was taught by some of the motivational giants: Bob Proctor, Brian Tracey, Steven Covey.  I did the Firewalk with Tony Robbins!  I had all the knowledge about how to improve my life but nothing changed.  Why?  Because I had negative emotional blocks inside, that I didn’t even know were there, that I had to be true to.  They would not allow me to apply the information so that I could make the desired transformation.

Through EFT, I learned about these limiting belief systems.  More important, I learned how to break them.  Most important of all, I did break them!  I am finally free to be who I was always meant to be!  I can’t begin to tell you what a difference that has made in the way I feel about myself and in my life.

So, if you are sick and tired of the same old, same old, there is a way out.  You can start again.  Not only can you start growing again, you can actually experience a rebirth – only this time, you will control the process.  Are you ready? 

For information on how to break negative emotional conditioning, contact Sheryl Stanton at www.SherylStanton.com, by email: stressrelief@shaw.ca or by phone: (604) 302-6374.

The Stress of Waiting

Tuesday, December 15, 2009 posted by Sheryl
Pregnant woman

Pregnant woman

My daughter, Shelayne, is expecting her second child and is five days past her due date. 

I understand how frustrating that is.  I was pregnant six times and my first two children were both three weeks overdue.  I thought I would go crazy!  Now, they won’t let you go longer than two weeks before they will induce the baby.

But, in the meantime, you just have to wait. 

I feel guilty even complaining about waiting myself, but my life is also on hold.    I promised that I would come for a week after the baby was born to look after her two year old son and help with the meals and housework so that she could rest.  She has no family or close friends to help her.

Shelayne lives twelve hours away in Fort St. James in northern BC and I live on the Coast, about an hour east of Vancouver.  I have to book a flight to Prince George and then her husband has to drive for two hours to come and get me.  I have no intention of driving in the snow up there. 

I also have to book the time off work, but I can’t do anything until she has the baby.  I am working as a nurse over Christmas too, so I have to be back before Chrismas.

I’d been complaining and fretting about something I couldn’t do anything about – and in the process was not getting done what I needed to do.  I had basically put my life on hold.

On Sunday, I realized what I was doing.  I remembered an old saying: “when the time for action arrives, the time for preparation has past.”  I had lists in my mind of what I needed to do before I went up to my daughter but I had done none of them.

I got busy.  I wrapped all the gifts that had been bought, finished decorating the house, bought the few remaining gifts, worked on the Christmas Eve Party and Christmas dinner menu with my older daughter and brought up the suitcases and started to pack.  Just getting busy, doing what I could, took a lot of the pressure off.

Then I had a good look at the calendar, thought about it and decided to be pro-active.  If I was going to stay for a week and still be back home to work at Christmas, I would have to leave in the next couple of days.  I checked the flights options, chose one and called my daughter to confirm that her husband could pick me up and booked the last flight available.

So, I am leaving early Wednesday morning.  Shelayne will be six days overdue then.  Hopefully she will have her baby in the next couple of days.  Again, I can’t do anything about that, but I have done everything I can do on my side – and now, I will leave it up to God.

There are so many things in life that we have no control over, that we just have to wait for.  But the one thing we do have control over is ourselves and what we do about what is happening – or not happening – in our lives.  We can choose to sit and stress or we can choose to stagnate and do nothing, or we can choose to do everything within our power to improve the situation.

If you are feeling stuck, there is a powerful tool that can make a huge difference in your life.  For more information, go to: Easy Stress Free Me!

What Kind of Snail Are You?

Thursday, September 10, 2009 posted by Sheryl

 Closed SnailOpen Snail

 

 

 

 

 

I have always liked snails.  I love the colors and shapes of their shells.  The other day when I was walking along the dyke by the Fraser River in Mission, BC there were dozens of snails along the path. 

As I looked at them, I realized an interesting thing.  The snails inside their shells probably thought they were  hidden away and safe.  But they were going nowhere and not only that, they were in danger of  being stepped on and killed!  The snails who had the courage to come out of their shells were moving – off the path and towards the grass.  In the grass, they would be safer and they would also have access to food.

I thought of how much we could learn from the snails.  How many of us are stuck in our “safe” routine, doing the same thing we’ve been doing for years?  We may not be happy or fulfilled but we are safe.  But are we really?  Someone once said that if you stay stuck in a rut, it becomes your grave.  We have to have the courage to leave our shell, stick our neck out and move.

I heard a minister say that the saddest thing about a funeral was not the death of the body.  It was the death of all the dreams.  Is there something that you have always wanted to do?  Are you doing anything about it?  You might not be able to do the whole thing, but are you doing anything to fulfill that dream? 

If you’re not, what kind of a snail are you?

Reduce Stress by Strengthening Your Roots

Saturday, August 29, 2009 posted by Sheryl

living plantDead Plant

 

 

 

 

I went for a walk along the dyke a few days ago and I saw the plant (pictured above on the left) lying on the ground.  I stopped and picked it up (pictured above on the right). 

But I knew that it would fall down the next time the wind blew.  Why was that?  The plant was too top heavy and the roots were not strong enough or deep enough to keep it up. 

I thought how often that plant represents our own lives.  Too many of us have weak roots.  Our early childhood conditioning and/or negative things that have happened in our past do not give us the strength we need to withstand the problems and challenges that are part of everyday life. 

When the wind blows (problems arise) in our life, we are not strong enough to withstand them and we fall.  This can show up in many ways: any kind of addiction, including overeating (the drug of choice for many people), depression, anxiety, fears and phobias, self-defeating behaviors and attitudes.

Unlike this plant though, there is something we can do to strengthen our roots and rebuild our lives the way we want them to be.  The first thing we have to do is realize that we are responsible for the quality of our lives.  This is incredibly powerful because it means that we have the power to change what we don’t like. 

The most powerful tool I’ve ever found for digging out and eliminating the weak, damaged roots from the past and replacing them with strong, healthy roots that will support and sustain our growth is Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT). 

Just like I helped that plant to stand again (even if only for a short time), I can help you strengthen your roots and rebuilt your life the way you want it to be.  There is always hope!

Unrelieved stress can definitely cause absenteeism or lateness.  It’s harder to get up and get going in the morning if you haven’t slept well the night before.  Or if you’ve had too much to drink or taken drugs to reduce your stress. 

Also work starts to lose its meaning the more stressed you get.  It is easy to develop a “Who Cares” attitude.

This short quotation was taken from an article called “Mental Health Facts” in the Vancouver Sun newspaper in 2007 ( I forgot to write down the date of the article).

The source is Mental Health Works: an initiative of the Canadian Mental Health Association, Ontario.

“Employees of three major American companies who displayed chronic symptoms of depression were twice as likely to miss work due to health reasons and seven times as likely to report missed workdays at the time of the follow-up survey.”