иконографияикониWe have all watched with horror and some fear, the unfolding story of the devastating trauma caused by the earthquake and tsunami in Japan, especially the nuclear reactor damage.

When I was growing up, tsunamis, earthquakes and hurricanes were  rare.  Now it seems that they are very common; especially earthquakes.  We see how devastating they are to the people that experience them and how helpless they were to avoid them.  It is frightening because we realize it could happen to us and we like to think that we are in control of our lives.

There are other areas of our life that we have little control over as well.  The effects can be just as devastating as an earthquake or tsumani.  What are they?

Accidents or the severe illness or death of a loved one can be devastating.  When my seven year old son David died, part of me died with him.  I lost myself for two years, just existing in a fog of grief.

Financial chaos in the economic community can severely affect our own lives, resulting in the loss of our savings or even our jobs.  The world is still reeling from the effects of the financial tsunami a couple of years ago, with multiple thousands of people losing their jobs and their homes.

The actions of people around us can be traumatizing.  How many of us have experienced the emotional agony of watching loved ones making destructive life-style choices, being completely helpless to stop them.

How do people respond to emotional earthquakes and tsunamis?  For most people, not very well.  Many turn to a variety of addictions to numb their pain.  I was an emotional eater.  Others bury it.  That is what I did with my son.  I had other children at home and didn’t have time to deal with the pain.  I just “kept on keeping on”.

The problem with burying negative emotions is that they always come up later in bigger and uglier ways – usually in health problems.  That is what happened to me.  Overnight I went from being able to do anything to being able to do nothing.  I spent three months in bed with a stress-related illness.

Are you aware that at least 85% of ALL illnesses, pain and injuries have an emotional foundation?  That doesn’t mean they are not real.  They are very real.  They just have an emotional cause.

Many times we can’t do anything about the emotional earthquake or tsumani that has affected our life.  We can’t bring back someone from the dead or make a loved one change their destructive behavior.  But we can do something about how we react and what it does to our lives.

When Western Medicine couldn’t help me, I studied complementary health and energy healing for eight years, looking for help for my own illness.  I found that the most effective tool for eliminating the negative effects of emotional earthquakes and tsunamis was Emotional Freedom Technique, also called EFT or Tapping.

EFT gave me back my health.  It gave me back my life.  Just as important, I learned why I got sick in the first place and what to do to make sure that it never happened again.

Here is what one of my clients wrote:   “Stress, trauma and guilt stay with you until a “Nuclear meltdown” becomes inevitable. Sheryl’s stress relief magic [EFT]  is the cooling water which make the reactor safe again. All the harmful by-products of whatever caused the meltdown to start are purged and a better life is empowered.”   Kitty Brown

If you are ready to rebuild your life and restore your peace, joy and personal power, I invite you to visit my website at www.SherylStanton.com.  Especially, click on the Events tab to learn about the powerful, peace restoring seminars and workshops that are coming up.

Your life can be the eye of the hurricane.  You can be calm, confident and in control – no matter what is happening, or not happening, around you.

What do you see in this picture?

This is my four year old grand daughter Mekenah, and her mother, my daughter Shauna.  It looks like they have huge eyes, doesn’t it?   The reality is that those huge eyes are just painted on.  Their real eyes are closed.

This picture symbolizes the way that so many of us live our lives.  We think that we see what is going on but that isn’t true.  We may see what is happening or not happening in our lives but most of us are completely blind to the cause.

We usually blame other people for our problems.  We say things like “It’s my parents fault!  It’s my teachers fault!  It’s my bosses fault!  It’s the government’s fault!  It’s God’s fault”  etc.

Or we may blame circumstances.  “If only I had a better education, were younger, were older, were prettier, were skinnier,  had more money, grew up in a better neighborhood, etc.

The truth is that we do not know why we do the things we do.  Or conversely, we  don’t know why we do not do the things that we want to do.  As a result, we keep getting results that we don’t want to have.  That knowledge is buried in our subconscious or below conscious mind.  And it is our subconscious mind, with it’s negative emotional conditioning,  that controls us.

If you are not living, doing, being or having what you want in any area of your life; in that area, you have negative emotional conditioning that is stopping you!  Until that negative emotional conditioning is eliminated, nothing is going to change in that area of your life.

In my 60 years of living, 8 years of research and 5 years of working as a stress relief specialist, the most powerful tool I have found for eliminating negative emotional conditioning is Emotional Freedom Technique, also called EFT or Tapping.

If you would like to stop being blind, remove the negative emotional conditioning, finally see clearly and move forward with your life, I invite you to learn how EFT can help you.

There are two opportunities coming up:

1.  First, is a 3 hour seminar, called: “the True Cause of Your Problems and How to Eliminate Them”.  The date is Wednesday, May 18^th from 7 to 10 pm.  The address is the Renaissance Retirement Resort at 6676 203rd St, Langley.

The link is: Langley2TrueCauseofYourProblemsandHowtoEliminateThem

2. Second, is the “Bliss and Balance for Life” 2-day Release Event.  The dates are Saturday and Sunday, June 11^th and 12^th from 9 to 5 each day.  The address is the same as above: Renaissance Retirement Resort at 6676 203rd St, Langley.

The link is:  JuneBlissandBalanceforLife2dayReleaseEvent

If you are unable to attend either of these two events and would

like more information, just email me at stressrelief@shaw.ca

Sheryl Stanton RN, Stress Relief Specialist

Recipient of the “Woman of Worth” Health and Wellness Award for 2010

мебели от чам On February 22nd, I wrote an article about a comment  a new client had made to me.  She said that she had been “killing time ’til she died”.  In the article, I wrote about my mother, who had done the same thing and willed herself to death at the young age of 68.  I said that I thought there were many people who might be feeling the same way.  People who had given up on life, had no hopes or dreams and were just existing – killing time ’til they died.

A couple of days ago I received an email from this same client.  She has given me permission to share it with you, including her full name.   This brave lady said  that she wants the whole world to know that there is hope for a new life.  So, it is will great joy and humility that I share her comments with you now.

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“Hi Sheryl,

In your last newsletter, you mentioned what I said about, “killing time ’til I die” and how we rely on addictions to get us through.  I, like your Mom, was drinking myself into a stupor whenever I could.  I knew I was an alcoholic but considered myself a “functioning” one, whatever that is.

From our first session last month, I have not wanted a drink.  I have not thought about it or craved it.  I have been to the pub a few times with friends and even spent the night at one of their houses; where we used to drink ourselves into a stupor ’til we passed out.  She did try a couple of times to slip a drink in front of me and I just pushed it away.

I had been getting more unhappy with waking up not remembering the night before and was considering getting help but I thought it would be extremely hard to quit.  I find it  amazing that I do not feel withdrawals or cravings.  The desire is just gone!  I know that, with your help, I have resolved the reason for the drinking in the first place. 

I want you to know how wonderfully our session affected me, Sheryl.  I have been so much happier this last month.  It feels like this little bubble is growing inside of me.  I feel so much better in all aspects of my life.

With much appreciation,

Lorna Wilson, Langley, BC

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If you are just “killing time til you die”, there is hope and there is help.  You can either have private, individual coaching with me, where we will focus completely on helping you eliminate those negative belief systems that are keeping you from having, doing or being what you want in life.

Or you can take one of my “Bliss and Balance for Life” two-day Release Events, where I will help you learn how to apply Emotional Freedom Technique to resolve your problems.  Just go to my website at www.SherylStanton.com and click on the “Events” tab to learn when they are being held.

Christmas is supposed to be, and can truly be, the most wonderful time of the year.  But, unfortunately, for many people – especially women – it is not.  According to the Life Stress Test, Christmas has a stress level of 15 out of a possible 100.

There are many reasons for this.  If you are already feeling stressed with the daily load of time, energy and money commitments you’re trying to balance, the extra demands of Christmas can truly be overwhelming.

 What are the extra demands of Christmas?

 1.  Money – Money to buy or make the gifts, the cost of the extra party food, payment for the Christmas concerts and programs that you may attend, money to give to Christmas charities, etc.

 2.  Work – Most of the extra work of Christmas falls on the women.  We buy or make the gifts, we wrap them, we decorate, we make the special party foods, we are the ones who get involved in the different school, club and church Christmas concerts, choirs, programs, service projects, etc.

 3.  Time – On top of our already heavy loads, we have to make the time to do all of the extra work.

 4.  Relationships – I know that we all wish we had family relationships that were loving and supportive, but for many of us that just isn’t true.  We might be able to avoid seeing “X” during the year but on special holidays, like Christmas – we can’t.  

This is also when we feel the pain of missing loved ones who have died or who are not physically able to be with us.  Feelings of loneliness are probably the greatest at Christmas time.

 5.  Expectations – The media always presents the ideal Christmas.  However, the reality is that many, if not most of us, do not have “Hallmark” Christmases.  You know what I mean:  the loving, joyful, beautifully dressed family gathers around the dining room table groaning with delicious, artistically prepared food.  Then, after a wonderful meal, the joyful, happy family goes into the beautifully decorated living room to the gorgeous tree where they open and delight in the mountain of perfectly chosen gifts for everyone. 

Who has that?  Almost nobody!  But we make ourselves exhausted, and, often miserable, as we try to live up to and compare our own lives to this fantasy. 

 As the former Queen of Christmas Stress, I have come to believe that all of this busyness and the incredible commercialism of Christmas might actually be part of Satan’s plan.  In all of this busyness, where does Christ fit in? 

The true message of Christmas has nothing to do with presents, food, parties, clothes, decorations, etc. etc. etc.  After all, the first Christmas had none of those things.

It doesn’t matter what your age is, whether you are alone or surrounded by people, whether you are rich or poor.  The true message of Christmas is the unfathomable gift of the Son of God – sent to earth to save us all!

 Maybe the best gift we can give ourselves and others this Christmas is to take a serious look at what we are doing.  What will happen if we drop this tradition?  Do we really need to do this?..or that?  Can we delegate, delete or simplify?

???????? ???? Have you ever been in a situation you could do Absolutely Nothing about?  I have – multiple times. 

Any one with adult children experiences that total feeling of helplessness and frustration when you see your adult children making harmful choices and there is not a thing you can do about it.

The worst ‘can do nothing about experience’ for me was when I found out my six month old son, David, had a rare but very serious form of Muscular Dystrophy.  We were told that David would never walk, be able to live a normal life and would probably not live very long.  

For three years, I fought accepting the reality that my son would not get better.  I kept asking “Why?”, ” Why my son?”,  “Why me?”  Until one day I realized that there were no answers to “Why” questions.  All they do is spiral you down into despair.  I realized that the “Why” didn’t matter.  The only thing that mattered is what I was going to do about it.

However, that is a whole lot easier to say than do.  I didn’t have the knowledge I have now, to help me accept the things that can’t be changed.  If I had, my life and the lives of my other children would have been so much happier and healthier. 

David died at the age of seven.  I did not handle it well, my other children suffered and I got sick.  I have since learned that 85% of all physical pains, illnesses and injuries are negative emotion based.

Are there things in your past or your present life that you can’t do anything about?  If you are having trouble accepting a situation that you have no control over, I can help.

Who Am I and Why Should You Listen to Me?

My name is Sheryl Stanton. I’m a registered nurse, stress relief specialist, speaker and trainer.  I’m the author of three stress-relief books and DVD sets.  In May, I was chosen to receive the “Woman of Worth” Health and Wellness Award for 2010.

But more important, I am a Stress Conqueror.  I know what it is like to suffer from unrelieved stress.  I got sick with a stress-related illness that put me in bed for three months.  Western medicine could do nothing to help me and I was told that I would have to accept a limited lifestyle at the age of 45. 

This was not something I was willing to do.  I  studied Complementary Health and Energy Healing for eight years.  I got my health back!  More important, I got my life back!  And I learned what to do to make sure it never happens again.  How, I share that information with others. 

If you are ready to make a change in your life, I can help you.  You can reach me through my website: www.SherylStanton.com, by email at stressrelief@shaw.ca or by phone at (604) 302 6374.

You can take a woman out of the abusive environment but it won’t take the abused mentality out of the woman. That might seem like a pretty harsh statement, but it is nevertheless true.

How many times have we seen abused women return to live with their abuser?  How many times have women who have escaped an abusive relationship, go into another one?
 

Woman Being Physically Abused

As a registered nurse and stress relief coach, a large number of my clients either are in or have been in abusive relationships.  In almost every case, when I review their history, there has been abuse of some form in their childhood.

Abuse takes many forms.  It can be sexual, physical, verbal or emotional.  The results are usually the same.  The child grows up believing that they have no worth and that they deserve to be abused. 

After all, to children, their parents are God.  If “God” thinks that they deserve to be treated badly, then it must be true.  Also, children have no options.  They are not mature enough to realize they have any rights; let alone stand up for them.  Children think that the way they live must be the way that everyone lives.

This negative conditioning is usually created before the child reaches the age of understanding.  Sometimes they will have no memory of the abuse because the subconscious (or below conscious awareness) mind buries memories that are too emotionally painful.

But the results are obvious.  This negative emotional conditioning creates a belief system that they are not good enough and deserve to be abused. That is why women stay in abusive relationships – and why outside intervention often does not work.  They have to be true to their belief system.

The only way the abuse cycle can be stopped is to break the negative conditioning that makes up the woman’s belief system that she deserves to be treated badly.  It is an inside job. 

 The most effective tool I have found for breaking these negative belief systems is Emotional Freedom Technique or EFT.   EFT is able to get down to the subconscious core abuse conditioning and eliminate them. 

Once these negative belief systems are broken, the woman will know that she deserves to be treated better and will no longer tolerate the abuse.  She will become stronger and able to form healthy relationships.

For information on how to break negative emotional conditioning, go  to www.SherylStanton.com  or email stressrelief@shaw.ca

Collum, as a puppy, deliberately sitting on our cat and laughing

First of all, you have to realize that I don’t even like dogs. I am a cat person. I didn’t want the dog poop in the back yard, feeling the pressure of having to walk the dog or the guilt if I didn’t. I didn’t want the barking at night or the hair all over the house. You don’t have any of those problems with cats.

For years I told my husband he would have to choose between a dog or me. But for Christmas, eight years ago, the decision of whether or not to get a dog was taken out of my, and my husband’s hands. Without my knowledge and certainly without my consent, our adult children got together and bought a puppy for my husband.

When they brought this tiny ball of fur with ears longer than his body into the living room and gave him to my husband, it was love at first sight. What could I do? I was stuck with a dog. He was a mix: half Australian Cattle Dog and half Rotweiler, with the coloring of the Rotweiler but the size of the Australian Cattle Dog.

We didn’t know what to call him, so that is what we named him: C0llum. Read the rest of this entry »

 Do You Know the TRUE Cause of Your Stress?  

It’s Not What You Think!   Until You Do Learn; You Won’t Be Able to Get Rid of It ! 

 In a hurry and want to book your place right away?     

At one time, I would have told you that I knew the causes of my stress.  I would have said:   

 -        Having five children in six years: four boys each born sixteen months apart  

-        Having a seriously handicapped child who required constant nursing care until his death at the age of seven  

-        Living for seventeen years without a secure income  

-        Living with the constant disapproval and judgment of my extended family  

-        Having a struggling relationship with my husband

I thought I was doing just fine.  I had lots of energy and believed I could always find the answers; I could do anything.  I thought I was handling the stress very well – until I got sick!  One day my body just shut down and I couldn’t do anything at all!  For three months I lived in bed or on the couch.  

The doctors had no answers that worked.  I was told at the age of 45 that I was getting older and would have to accept a limited lifestyle.  This was not something I was willing to do.  I started studying outside of Western medicine.  For eight years I took many, many different courses in complementary health and energy therapy.

I found my answers and I got my health back! 

But more important, I learned why I got sick in the first place, and how to make sure that it never happened again!

 So how did I get my health back? What did I learn about why I got sick in the first place?

These are answers that I want to share with you on a complimentary call being held next Thursday, October 15^th, 7:00 to 8:00 pm P.D.T.  

Using exciting new technology, you will actually be able to participate, instead of just listening to me. 

 Grab Your Place Here! 

So what will I be sharing with you on Thursday?

• The true cause of stress in your life.  You will finally be free of all those external stressors!                                                  
• You will understand why you do things that you don’t want to do – or, why you don’t do things you do want to do – getting results you don’t want to have!                                                         
• I will show you how you can take back your power and become the person you want to be – and have the ability to be!

Are there things that you dream about doing?                      

 Is there something you really want but can’t seem to get, no matter how hard you try?  

If you could create more money in your life, have less stress and more fun, what would your life be like?

• What would you be doing with your time?
• How would you be spending your days?
• What dreams have you put off that you would be living?

The first step is to take back control of your life.  You can do it.  I did and I absolutely know that you can too.  On the call, I will be introducing a powerful tool to make that happen!

Here is that link again to RESERVE YOUR SPOT in this complimentary, interactive call.

I’m dedicated to helping you make your world better – one step at a time.  

Sheryl Stanton RN                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                               Stress Relief Coach

P.S.  I know how busy you are and how easy it is to put off registering for a call.  I get the same avalanche of emails you do.  However, I promise you that you will get something out of this call that will help you have less stress, more fun, better health and more money in your life.  You deserve the best and the world deserves your best.  Reserve Your Spot right now!

P.P.S.  If you really can’t make it, the call will be recorded, so you can listen to the recording.  You won’t be able to participate in the live, interactive dialog and activities though.  I highly recommend you register today to make sure that you get a spot.