Saturday, July 10, 2010 posted by Sheryl
Do you know what the Third Biggest Mistake Women Over 30 are Making that is Keeping Them Unhappy, Unhealthy and Unfulfilled?
Sheryl Stanton RN
Stress Relief Specialist
(604) 302 -6374
Sunday, June 6, 2010 posted by Sheryl
I attended the ”Women of Worth” Conference with 700 other women at the Hotel Vancouver on Saturday, May 29th. I had a table display there but I was also there for another reason.
I was there as a finalist for the “Women of Worth” Health and Wellness Award for 2010. What made it especially meaningful for me, is that it was two of my private stress-relief clients who nominated me.
To my delight, I was chosen to receive the award! You can see in the picture that I am standing beside Christine Awram, the president and founder of “Women of Worth”.
I didn’t start out to be a stress relief specialist. Originally, I was just looking for a way to get my own health back after being in bed for three months with a stress-related illness. I was told at the age of 45 that I was going to have to accept a limited lifestyle.
This was not something I was willing to do, so I started searching and I went outside of Western medicine because they had no answers for me. For eight years I studied many different branches of complementary health and energy medicine.
I did get my health back. More important, I found out why I got sick in the first place. I learned about the negative belief systems, the “Emotional Mud” on my spirit, that that affected every area of my life – negatively.
Most important, I learned how to make sure that it never happened again. Using a powerful stress-reduction tool called Emotional Freedom Technique, I was able to break those negative emotional hooks or blocks and wash away the “Emotional Mud”.
I am now free to do the things and be the person I’ve always wanted to be. I’d wanted to be a speaker for thirty five years but didn’t believe I had anything worthwhile to say. I’d always wanted to write but who would want to read anything I’d written?
As I grew in knowledge and experience, I learned that many people felt the same way I had. I started sharing my knowledge with others and found to my amazement that not only did people want to know, that I loved to do it.
After seaching for over half a century, I’d finally found out what I was supposed to do with my life! I love to speak and I’ve written four books and created four DVD courses; including: the Personal Peace Program, “Stress-Free? – Me?”, “Stress-Free Parenting: fact or fiction?” and “Work-Stress? – Not a Problem!”
My greatest joy is to see the changes in my client’s lives as they break their own negative emotional blocks and wash away their own “Emotional Mud”.
So what I do as a stress relief specialist. I work individually with private clients, either in person or over the phone. I present my own seminars and retreats. And I speak to organizations and businesses about their aspects of stress relief.
On Wednesday, June 16th from 7:00 to 10:00 pm in Burnaby, I am presenting a three hour
”Stress-Free? – Me?” seminar. Click on the following link to watch a short video explanation of the seminar.
“Stress-Free? – Me?” – Absolutely! If you are unable to attend the seminar, you can still get the information by checking out
“Easy Stress Free Me!”
I hope you can join us.
Sheryl Stanton
RN, Stress Relief Specialist
Winner of the “Women of Worth” Health and Wellness Award for 2010
Tuesday, May 25, 2010 posted by Sheryl
Do You Remember What a Push Me-Pull You Is?
In the movie, Dr. Doolittle, a man who could talk to the animals, was sent a very unique animal, called a Push Me – Pull You. It had two heads and two
sets of front legs. When one half wanted to move forward, the other half would have to move backward. This caused a lot of confusion and disharmony.
Most of the time, the animal just stood still.
What is the Push Me-Pull You Syndrome?
Just like the animal, many of us have two parts that are fighting each other. One part wants to make a change in our lives. The other part is getting a pay-off or reward for continuing the behavior and doesn’t want to change. It will usually sabotage our efforts.
This is usually subconscious or below the awareness part of our mind, so we might not even know we are doing it. However, we do know that no matter how badly we may want to change, we never seem to be able to do it.
How Do We Know If We Have the Push Me-Pull You Syndrome?
Just think of the things that you want to do or feel you have to do or need to do. Those are the “Push Me” parts of the syndrome. Some examples could be:
- I want to lose weight
- I need to get a better job
- I have to go to school
- I want to be a better parent
- I need to be a better ….(fill in the blank)
The “Pull Me” part of the syndrome would be whatever reasons you are using for not doing the “Push Me” part.
- For “I want to lose weight” - then men might hit on me and I might not be safe
- For “I need to get a better job” – but they will find out I’m not good enough to do the job
- For “I have to go to school” – but what if I’m not smart enough to do the work; what will people think if I fail
- For “I want to be a better parent” – I’m not a good person, what do I know about being a good parent
- For “I need to be a better….” – but I’m not good enough, smart enough, don’t deserve to have a better —, can’t do it, etc. etc. etc.
Do you get the idea?
What is an example of the Push Me-Pull You Syndrome?
Any time we want to make a change but are not doing it can show the Push Me-Pull You syndrome. Where it is most obvious is when we are trying to change an addiction.
I am going to use the addiction to food as an example because it is the drug of choice for most people. It is also the addiction that I am the most familiar with. The three times in my life when I was overweight were very unhappy times for me.
I used food as a source of comfort – the only comfort I could find at the time. And it was not celery and carrot sticks that comforted me. It was rich, creamy, carbohydrate, sweet and fatty food.
Why do we sabotage our efforts to change?
Because there is a pay-off. We get something out of what we are doing. In my case, I got comfort from eating.
One of my clients was addicted to chocolate. Emotionally to her, chocolate meant love. She was not about to give that chocolate up, without a fight. That is why we sabotage. We perceive what we have as being more valuable, in the moment, than what we want, in the future.
It is just like the small child who is offered a sucker now or an ice cream sundae later. We will choose the sucker now because we need it now and can’t see that waiting will give us something better.
Remember that this all happens at a subconscious level. Consciously, we want to lose weight or get a better job or whatever the “Push Me” part of us is saying. But subconsciously, where all of our decisions are really made, the “Pull Me” part of us is saying that we do not believe that the pay off will be better than what we are getting now.
How do you eliminate the Push Me-Pull You Syndrome?
The most powerful tool I have found, and what worked for me, is Emotional Freedom Technique or EFT. It helped me first to become aware of the negative belief systems (the Pull You) that were controlling my life.
Then it helped me to break that negative conditioning and remove my need for artificial comfort. I lost almost fifty pounds and have kept it off for almost two years now.
If you would like to learn how to use EFT to eliminate the negative conditioning or “Pull Yous” that are keeping you stuck, I can help you!
Who am I and why would you want to listen to me?
My name is Sheryl Stanton. I’m a registered nurse, stress relief specialist, speaker and trainer. I’m the author of three stress-relief books and DVD sets. In May, I was chosen to receive the “Woman of Worth” Health and Wellness Award for 2010.
But more important, I am a Stress Conqueror. I know what it is like to suffer from unrelieved stress. I got sick with a stress-related illness that put me in bed for three
months. Western medicine could do nothing to help me and I was told that I would have to accept a limited lifestyle at the age of 45.
This was not something I was willing to do. I studied Complementary Health and Energy Healing for eight years. I got my health back! More important, I got my life back! And I learned what to do to make sure it never happens again. Now, I share that information with others.
If you are ready to make a change in your life, I can help you. You can reach me through my website: www.SherylStanton.com, by email at stressrelief@shaw.ca or by phone at (604) 302 6374.
Tuesday, April 20, 2010 posted by Sheryl
Most women have their child’s best interests at heart and want to be good mothers. Unfortunately, children are not born with training manuals pinned to their navels. As a result, most women do not know what they are doing or how well they are fulfilling their roles as mothers.
As the mother of six children myself, I never knew if what I was doing was right. I experimented with my first child as she went through each new age and stage. By the time I figured out how to handle it, she was out of that stage and into another. And what worked for her, didn’t work for the others.
I once knew a man who had no children and six theories on how to raise them. Then he got married and had children of his own. Now, he has six children and no theories.
So, what are the three massive mistakes even smart mothers make that keep them frustrated,overwhelmed, guilty and worried about their children’s future?
Mistake # 3: The Sponge Syndrome
As mother’s we sponge up all of our kids fears and problems. We think it is our problem to fix our kids, no matter how old they are. The first reason this is a mistake, is because it is impossible to do. We can’t “fix” our kids! We can guide them and teach them but they have to learn for themselves.
By overprotecting them and “solving” their problems, we make them weak and dependent on us. Not only that, they will resent us for it! They will feel that we believe they are not capable of looking after themselves.
All we will do is weaken our children, alienate them and make ourselves sick trying to do the impossible.
Mistake # 2: Trying To Do It All Alone
You’ve probably heard the statement: “It takes a village to raise a child.” There is a lot of truth in that. In the old days when people stayed in villages, surrounded by their extended families, there were other people to help, support and train the children. But, in today’s world, we don’t have that as much, if at all. Many mothers are trying to do it alone.
It doesn’t matter if they are sick or tired or working out of the home. The needs of the children still must be met. Often by women who are not having their own needs met or who are emotionally ill equipped to raise a child. They feel isolated, all alone, overwhelmed and exhausted.
They need to connect with other women and create a support network for themselves.
Mistake # 1: Not Taking Care of Their Own Needs
This is probably the biggest problem that the majority of mothers face today! They spend so much time and energy meeting the needs of their children and everyone else, they have no time, energy or resources left to take care of themselves.
Unfortunately, you can’t keep giving from an empty bucket. Eventually, there is nothing left to give. Everything starts to fall apart, including the woman’s health.
A woman’s first priority has to be taking care of her own physical, social and emotional needs. The very best thing she can do for her children is to be healthy herself! She will then interact with her children is a more positive, healthy way. This will allow her children to also respond in healthier, more responsible ways. It truly creates a win-win situation for everyone.
Unfortunately, most women don’t know how to deal with their overwhelming emotions in a positive way. In eight years of intensive research, I found the best tool for eliminating negative emotions to be Emotional Freedom Technique or EFT.
A four-hour Stress-Free Parenting seminar is being held in Surrey on Saturday, May 15th that will teach mothers how to use EFT to eliminate their parenting stress and restore their joy and effectiveness with their children.
or call (604) 302-6374.
Sunday, April 11, 2010 posted by Sheryl
If you are having trouble doing this, I can help you.
Who am I and why would you want to listen to me?
My name is Sheryl Stanton. I will connect you to the TRUE CAUSE of your Problem. Then, I will help you ELIMINATE IT – FOREVER! The result is that you will either regain or increase your personal power and experience peace and joy in your life. You will be happy to live in the “NOW” of your life!
I ’m a registered nurse, stress relief specialist, speaker and trainer and author of four stress-relief books and DVD courses. In May, I had the honor of being chosen to receive the “Woman of Worth” Health and Wellness Award for 2010.
But more important, I am a Stress Conqueror. I know what it is like to suffer from unrelieved stress. I got sick with a stress-related illness that put me in bed for three months. Western medicine could do nothing to help me and I was told that I would have to accept a limited lifestyle at the age of 45.
This was not something I was willing to do. I studied Complementary Health and Energy Healing for eight years. I got my health back! More important, I got my life back! And I learned what to do to make sure it never happens again. Now, I share that information with others.
If you are ready to get rid of the unresolved anger in your life, I can help you. You can reach me through my website: www.SherylStanton.com, by email at stressrelief@shaw.ca or by phone at (604) 302 6374.
Wednesday, March 24, 2010 posted by Sheryl
Bird flying on eagle's back
The Olympics and Paralympics were held in Vancouver this year and it was an interesting experience.
I am not an athlete. I’m not interested in sports at all. As a matter of fact, when my husband starts talking to me about hockey, baseball, golf, football or whatever, my eyes glaze over.
I live one hour east of Vancouver, B.C. where the Winter Olympics were held this year. The province has been preparing for this event for the last five years and I have watched, cynically, as the proposed cost of the Olympics has probably quadrupled from what we were originally told it would cost us. Our children will probably still be paying for the privilege of having the Olympics and Paralympics here.
I wasn’t the least bit interested myself. But something unusual happened. In my opinion, Canadians are usually a pretty quiet, polite, reserved people. We leave the loud, exuberate patriotism to our neighbours to the south.
But suddenly everyone around me was sporting Canadiana. Canadian flags were in windows, painted on walls, attached to cars, on people’s clothing. Everyone was talking about how many medals we had won and what events were taking place.
My seven-month pregnant daughter and her husband took their three children: age 2, 4 and 6 into Vancouver for the day to see the special Olympic exhibits. Personally, I couldn’t imagine a more awful experience than to drag three little kids through the crowds all day while being seven months pregnant.
But I guess all the hoopla finally got to me. I decided that I would probably never again have the opportunity to participate in the Olympics. If I didn’t at least go into Vancouver and see some of the sights, I would regret it.
So, on the last Saturday of the Olympics (probably the worst time to go), in the rain, my husband and I drove part way in and then took the Sky Train into Vancouver. We had our picture taken in the Luge sled. I stood beside a First Nations man dressed in his ceremonial outfit and posed beside a statue of flying eagles.
Most of the time, we just walked around the city, in the rain. We walked from one venue to another, saw the two to four hour lineups for each one and decided we really didn’t want to see it that badly. Then we came home. But we went!
I watched my husband and son-in-law almost have heart attacks as the Canadian and American hockey team went into overtime, vying for the Gold – and Canada won! And I watched the closing ceremonies on TV.
I thought a lot about why events like the Olympics and Paralympics are so popular and I think the picture of the bird flying on the back of the eagle gives the reason. For a few days, we, the general public, get to rid on the backs of eagles. Their successes become our successes! Their Gold becomes our Gold. They are an inspiration to us.
There are many other eagles in our lives. Sometimes parents or grandparents. Sometimes teachers or coaches, political or social personalities will say or do something that will inspire us to try harder or be better. Think of the number of people that Oprah has helped to lift their vision.
I don’t remember who said it but I remember a quotation: “It is better to aim for the stars and drag your feet through the treetops than it is to aim for the treetops and drag your feet through the mud”.
Thank God for the eagles that help us see farther, try harder and fly higher than we would without their help!
If you are having a problem trying to be, do or have what you want in your life, it could be that there is hidden negative emotional conditioning that is holding you back. I can help you eliminate those, so that you can become an eagle and experience the thrill of flying yourself!
Who am I and why would you want to listen to me?
My name is Sheryl Stanton. I will connect you to the TRUE CAUSE of your problem. Then, I will help you ELIMINATE IT – FOREVER! Then you will have greater peace, personal power and be free to be your own eagle.
I’m a registered nurse, stress relief specialist, speaker and trainer and author of four stress-relief books and DVD courses. In May, I had the honor of being chosen to receive the “Woman of Worth” Health and Wellness Award for 2010.
But more important, I am a Stress Conqueror. I know what it is like to suffer from unrelieved stress. I got sick with a stress-related illness that put me in bed for three months. Western medicine could do nothing to help me and I was told that I would have to accept a limited lifestyle at the age of 45.
This was not something I was willing to do. I studied Complementary Health and Energy Healing for eight years. I got my health back! More important, I got my life back! And I learned what to do to make sure it never happens again. Now, I share that information with others.
If you are ready to get rid of chains that are keeping you from being your own eagle, I can help you. You can reach me through my website: www.SherylStanton.com, by email at stressrelief@shaw.ca or by phone at (604) 302 6374.
Monday, March 15, 2010 posted by Sheryl
So much of the time, our thoughts are on the future; either in fear or anticipation. Or they are on the past, either remembering the good old days or re-experiencing painful memories.
The problems with this type of thinking are two-fold:
1. If we are dwelling on past negative experiences, we are re-introducing that negative energy into our body. The energy we are in will attract similar energy to us, so we will continue to experience what we don’t want in our lives. The same is true if we are looking at the future with fear. We will attract what we don’t want.
2. If we are dreaming about how good the future is going to be, we are not living in the present. I had years of doing that. I had five children born within six years, one of whom was seriously handicapped. At the same time, I was married to a student husband, so we were desperately poor. I spent all my time dreaming of how much better my life was going to be when…. When my children were all in school, when my husband had a full time job, when, when, when.
What I didn’t realize that I was spending so much time dreaming, that I was not living. I didn’t see the cute, funny things my children did or said. I didn’t appreciate what was good in my life right then – in the moment. I also didn’t realize that my future would depend on how I lived in the moment.
If you spend all your time and energy dreaming about tomorrow, you will never get what you are dreaming about because it is what we do today that determines what our tomorrows are going to be like.
Saturday, February 13, 2010 posted by Sheryl
February is Valentine’s month. This is a time when thoughts turn to romance and “true love’s kiss”. We dream of having the greatest love of all! Unfortunately, most of us don’t know what true love is.
For many people, true love is as real as the modern fairy tale, “Enchanted”, where the young girl is waiting for Prince Charming to give her true love’s kiss, after which they will live happily ever after.
We all long to have a rich, satisfying, mutually fulfilling relationship with another person. So why do so many people have shallow, meaningless relationships? I think that one possible reason is that many, if not most of us, do not have the greatest love of all.
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Monday, January 25, 2010 posted by Sheryl
The Winter Olympics took place in Vancouver, BC this year. Athletes from all over the world have come to compete for the coveted “Gold” medallion; showing that they are the best in the world at their sport.
Having the Olympics in my own back yard (I live in Mission, just one hour east of Vancouver), started me thinking about the times I’ve gone for my own “Gold” and the number of times that I’ve failed. I’ve tried a number of different businesses: home party plans; network marketing, commodity trading, various sales jobs, management positions, etc. Also, I’m a registered nurse by profession and still work part time as a nurse.
I worked very hard at some of those businesses and spent a lot of money I didn’t have, trying to make them successful. So why weren’t they? There are many reasons: some good, some bad. Read the rest of this entry
Tuesday, January 5, 2010 posted by Sheryl
Which is the Greater Miracle: Birth or Growth?
On December 18th, I had the privilege of attending the birth of my sixth grandchild and helping to care for him for the first few days of his life.
I think there are few things more soul-filling than to have a new baby sleep on your shoulder; to lightly touch his velvety skin with your cheek and smell that fleeting new baby smell.
As I held that beautiful baby in my arms, I thought of the six babies that I had given birth to; three of whom are parents themselves now. People talk about the miracle of birth and I agree; but to me, growth is just as great a miracle. To think that a newborn, helpless babe can grow up to one day create a child of their own is truly stunning!
But birth and physical growth is a natural event. We didn’t have anything to do with our birth and until we’re old enough to start making choices that could interfere with the process, we don’t have much control over our physical growth either.
However, we have 100% total control over our personal growth. This is the time of year when people make, and usually break, New Year’s Resolutions. You know the ones I’m talking about. This is the year that I lose weight, get out of debt, start that business, take that holiday, etc. However, statistics show that 90% of New Year’s Resolutions are broken before February 1st.
Why is that? There are lots of reasons given but through my own experiences and the many years of research I’ve done on this subject, I think it boils down to one answer. The goal is outside of the person’s belief system about themselves.
We each have a belief system about who and what we are, and we have to be true to it – even if it is negative and harmful (which it usually is). Our belief systems were installed, usually by our families, and were well established before we even went to school.
As a stress relief coach, I’ve found that the majority of negative belief systems involve having no value as yourself – only in what you do, being responsible to meet other people’s needs and being a failure, not deserving of good things.
This conditioning is subconscious (below the conscious mind level), so we are not aware that it’s there. However, until you change that conditioning and remove these negative emotional blocks, you will never be able to grow.
The exciting news is that you can change your belief systems. You can break the negative emotional blocks that are keeping you from being, doing or having what you want in your life. The most powerful tool I’ve found to accomplish this, is Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT).
I was a motivational course junkie for over 30 years. I took dozens of self improvement courses. I was taught by some of the motivational giants: Bob Proctor, Brian Tracey, Steven Covey. I did the Firewalk with Tony Robbins! I had all the knowledge about how to improve my life but nothing changed. Why? Because I had negative emotional blocks inside, that I didn’t even know were there, that I had to be true to. They would not allow me to apply the information so that I could make the desired transformation.
Through EFT, I learned about these limiting belief systems. More important, I learned how to break them. Most important of all, I did break them! I am finally free to be who I was always meant to be! I can’t begin to tell you what a difference that has made in the way I feel about myself and in my life.
So, if you are sick and tired of the same old, same old, there is a way out. You can start again. Not only can you start growing again, you can actually experience a rebirth – only this time, you will control the process. Are you ready?
For information on how to break negative emotional conditioning, contact Sheryl Stanton at www.SherylStanton.com, by email: stressrelief@shaw.ca or by phone: (604) 302-6374.
My name is Sheryl Stanton. I’m a registered nurse, stress relief specialist, speaker and trainer. I’m the author of three stress-relief books and DVD sets. In May, I was 
